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10 Things You Must Say to Your Wife

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One of the best summer jobs I ever had was renting out powerboats in Annapolis harbor. The scenery was gorgeous every day. One day, a couple took a boat out into the Chesapeake Bay with heavy waves and their boat engine broke down. They called in for help and it was my job to rescue them. I took a boat out there and found them bobbing up and down in five foot swells. I needed to pull alongside of them without damaging the boats which is difficult in that type of chop. I carefully maneuvered the propeller forward just enough to bond the boats together in a perfect parallel. It felt like a miracle and I was able to tow them in to safety.

Marriages can enter choppy waters. Words are powerful and can bring us into a closer bond, but they can also cause us to crash. Our tongue is a rudder we need to control carefully, using words to our wives that bring us closer. [Tweet This] In order to do that, here are 10 things you must say to your wife:

1. I love you: If you’re looking for an answer to “how often?” there isn’t a number! This is something you can’t say too often or in too many ways. If someone brags, “I don’t have to tell her, she already knows,” don’t listen. It’s a lie even if you hear it from your wife herself.

2. You are beautiful: Words to the wise:

– If you believe it, then it is so.
– There is no such thing as a spouse who is not beautiful.
– A woman who is told she is beautiful actually becomes more beautiful.

3. I’d like to know what you’re thinking: Relationships grow best in terms of communication. Kissing (and all that kind of stuff) is a by-product of relationships that are invested in knowing and being known.

4. Thank you: “Thank you for believing in me,” and “Thank you for loving me,” and “Thank you for being strong for me,” and “Thank you for… (dinner, being so beautiful, ironing my shirts, being such a great mom, watching the game with me).” You get the picture.

5. Where would you like to go this evening?: She wants to – she needs to – know that you care about her opinion. And it doesn’t just apply to dinner out. It’s critically important that she understands this is an equal partnership.

6. I was wrong: Let’s be honest; sometimes, we are wrong. In the great scheme of things (believe us), being right is nowhere close to being as important as being gracious when you are not right.

7. You were right: “You were/are right” takes #6 a step further. Your wife wants to know that you respect her. We’re very sure that it’s critical for a wife to know she is respected by her husband.

8. I’m cooking dinner this week: A lot of you are already liberated, forward-thinking men. If so, then move on to #9. If not, and this doesn’t only apply to cooking, believe us when we tell you that it’s to everyone’s advantage that your wife not feel “expected” to do anything “because she’s a woman.” Don’t just tell her the relationship is equal, show her as well.

9. Would you please read me the instructions for this?: That’s right, you heard us! Step off the ego train once in a while and ask for a little help from your sweetie.

10. Instead of watching the game this afternoon, I’d like to go on a long walk with you and just talk: You must communicate clearly to your wife that she is massively important, that you want to spend time with her, and that there’s nothing on television that could even vaguely compete with the delight of her presence. That you want to know her: who she is and what she is thinking.

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Sound Off

Sound Off: What does your wife like to hear you say the most?


 

  • ksoileau

    Your idea of a man’s submission to his wife is……….interesting. Frankly, most men would probably not want to kowtow to a female in the ways you describe.

    • Joe Jack

      Yes, because saying “I love you,” “you are beautiful,” “thank you,” and apologizing for your mistakes is considered “kowtowing”

      • ksoileau

        It’s more than that. You are behaving submissively in ways that you don’t expect your wife to submit. Where are your words about standing your ground when your wife is behaving selfishly? You are counseling young men to become feminized weaklings.

        • David Bernard

          Sounds like submitting to each other to me.

          • ksoileau

            It’s Biblical submission corrupted by modern day feminism.

          • ksoileau

            I’m a biblical azzhole

        • ksoileau

          I’m a feminized weakling.

    • ksoileau

      I only submit to well endowed black men

      • Paul_Sp

        I see you’re still spreading your idiocy around this site!
        No one cares about your sarcastic opinions.
        They aren’t working!

        • ksoileau

          Obviously you do, ASS wipe.

          • Paul_Sp

            Tsk, tsk,…..microbrain is reduced to using such a juvenile potty mouth!
            You do your arguments so proud!

            Btw, I only up vote when I agree, and that one I took literally and couldn’t agree with you more!

          • ksoileau

            Thanks azzhole. You’re the only person that supports and complains all in one breath.

          • Paul_Sp

            You “like” your own juvenile potty-mouth replies?

          • ksoileau

            very much motherf*cker.

          • Paul_Sp

            Well it’s probably going to get you banned from here, but don’t say you weren’t warned.
            That’s in addition to undermining any of your viewpoints of course.

          • ksoileau

            You made a racist comment about my headwear you forgetful azzhole. I hope you get banned you racist motherf*cker.

          • Paul_Sp

            Temper, temper…..
            That wasn’t a racist comment as there are more than just one race that wears those, don’t you know that?
            And why do you SLIGHTLY change the spelling of your profanities? Serves no purpose.

          • ksoileau

            My profanities are covered by Freedom of Speech. You on the other hand have to resort to racial slurs, you low life piece of sh*t.
            I HOPE YOU GET BANNED!!!!!!! You want to come off sounding intelligent but you negated your intelligence using a racial slur.

          • Paul_Sp

            Oh, how badly you want to that to be true!!
            Profanities are not always covered under…..why am I having to educate you so much on this thread?

            Sounds like you’re suggesting that your profanities are fine, but since my comment about your headwear? was “racist” (in YOUR view), it’s “worse” than the plethora of profanities and insults you’ve hurled on this thread now, and previous ones?

            I really think if people read ALL that you’ve posted on this APD site, that you’d have many more taking issue with what you’ve written than sympathetic to what YOU are choosing to call a racist comment.

            In fact I can’t recall you ever saying anything critical of yourself or humble in the least.

          • ksoileau

            Here you go wanting to do some damage control. You’re a racist White Honkie and you know it. Don’t try to sound intelligent now when you exposed your true bigoted nature.

          • Paul_Sp

            None needed. Your cheating the language filters, as you say, so you can be foul-mouthed speaks plenty about your character.

          • ksoileau

            Says the judgmental bigot.

          • ksoileau

            But you’re a bigot. You’re cheating the world with your poisoned existence.

          • Paul_Sp

            Ok, now you’re sounding mentally unstable. Drawing all sorts of conclusions based on conjecture and opinions.
            Please get some help for your delusions!

          • ksoileau

            You’re textbook White Honkie behavior. You’re denying what you did and are now deflecting it on me. Don’t you have some AC/DC music to listen to you racist White Saltine cracker?

          • ksoileau

            You’re a delusional Shinola faced ape!!!!!!

          • Chimpmania.com Nig News

            What the f u c k is wrong with you?

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……

          • ksoileau

            You’re a Klan Wh*re.

          • Paul_Sp

            My character is even worse. I hide by trying to appear intellectual but my evil ways and thoughts always shine thru.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY stupid!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R….

          • ksoileau

            You’re a long winded fagg!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            I write so much garbage but I don’t care about nothing. My family calls me an immoral savage.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……

          • ksoileau

            I change the spelling of the profanities to bypass the sites language filter, you racist dumb a s s.

          • Paul_Sp

            Well right there that should tell you that your potty mouth is sinful and unwelcome here.
            Are you smart enough to get that? Remains to be seen….

          • ksoileau

            You White Honky piece of sh*t.

          • Paul_Sp

            Again, you have no idea what my race is!
            Sooo stupid!!!

          • ksoileau

            You’re a Feral White Pavement Ape.

          • ksoileau

            Your denial and deflection made it quite obvious.

          • ksoileau

            You’re White. You and I know it you bigoted hick.

          • ksoileau

            I can smell your rancid puzzy.

          • Paul_Sp

            Everyone knows I’m White, it’s so obvious.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY stupid!

          • ksoileau

            Says the pious bigot.

          • ksoileau

            You’re an intellectual Albino Chimp!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            I tell people they have a potty mouth and remind them its sinful. I then proceed to insult them with my own vulgarities then qoute Jesus when I’m done. I’m such a White privileged hypocrite.

          • Paul_Sp

            No, half a brain means you violate their rules so you can sneak in profanity when the site obviously forbids it.

          • ksoileau

            And he who dictates rules sneaks out a racial slur.

          • ksoileau

            You’re a zombie fagg!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            I have half a brain. I love coming off like I’m right but I’m dead wrong.

          • Chimpmania.com Nig News

            I agree azzhole.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY stupid!

          • ksoileau

            You’re a temperamental skank!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a temperemental wh¤re.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY blind and stupid!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F C K E R……

          • ksoileau

            You’re a cunt!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY stupid!

          • ksoileau

            You’re a twaat!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY blind and stupid!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……

          • ksoileau

            You’re a dik head!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            Tsk, tsk….. I’m a racist Jesus qouting sack of s h i t.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY stupid!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F C K E R……

        • ksoileau

          You’re an azzhole!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            Said with all the fine intelligence you can muster, it seems.
            This is what you’re left with….
            You need professional help.

          • ksoileau

            Help me then you intervening son of a skank.

          • Paul_Sp

            This hijacking of my name is so childish!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m the one that needs professional help. I’m nothing but a racist troll.

          • ksoileau

            You’re crazy. Site administrator, please ban this scum bag.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY blind and stupid!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……

        • Paul_Sp

          I’m REMARKABLY blind and stupid!

    • Paul_Sp

      YOU can’t speak for most men!

      • ksoileau

        Actually, since I’m not controlled by a woman, I can express any opinion I like. But thinks for your input.

        • ksoileau

          I’m not controlled by women. I like to be controlled by well endowed Black men.

          • Paul_Sp

            Perhaps you should loosen the diaper on your head. Seems to be limiting your intellect.

          • ksoileau

            says the racist honky.

          • Paul_Sp

            Oh, you know if I’m racist and what race I am? Amazing!!

          • ksoileau

            You made a racist comment about my headwear you forgetful azzhole.

          • ksoileau

            You made a racist comment about my headwear you forgetful azzhole. This is what you said “Perhaps you should loosen the diaper on your head. Seems to be limiting your intellect”. You racist son of b*tch. I hope you get banned you, racist motherf*cking troll.

          • Paul_Sp

            You’re grasping for crap. Wasn’t racist.
            Was sarcastic. You’re profanity is the cause.

          • ksoileau

            Don’t try to clean up now. You f*cked up and you know it. Want to sound all intelligent and giving people warnings about being banned. It took one racist comment and all that went out the window You’re a low life piece of sh*t. I’m straightforward, profanity and all. You hide under a false pretense but your true colors were exposed, azzhole.

          • Paul_Sp

            Went out the window to you and only you! Cuz you’re so desperate to find SOMETHING to beat me with! You’re intellect and choice of language don’t seem capable.
            You don’t even know me. You jump to ridiculous conclusions without enough data, then try to beat the other commenters, rather than respectfully consider others’ views.

          • ksoileau

            Here we go. Stop going under the guise of being intelligent. You’re a racist bigot. The lowest low life there is. You don’t want to acknowledge it thats why you keep replying. The only disrespectful person is you referring to a religious head piece as a diaper. You’re late for your Klan meeting azzhole.

          • Paul_Sp

            All opinions, and from someone who appears desperate to “win”!

            You’re so hung up on that one comment, versus MANY offensive, crude, arrogant, unhelpful, taunting, shall I go on? comments that you have posted.

            I wonder if you think you’ve EVER been too cocky?

            I hope that headwear isn’t meant to imply humility or holiness or wisdom or goodness in any form. If so, you should be too ashamed to wear it.

          • ksoileau

            Ok so now you’re starting to admit you’re a racist. That’s good. Acknowledging fault is the first step to rehabilitation. You’re a very judgmental person which confirms you being a White Saltine.

          • Paul_Sp

            Nope, not true, so not admitting that at all.

            If I’m judgmental, what are you with respect to this or the other feedback I’ve just given you regarding how you come across? (Should add name-caller to the list as well)

          • ksoileau

            You didn’t name call? Let me remind you “Tsk, tsk,…..microbrain is reduced to using such a juvenile potty mouth!”.

            You called me a microbrain and then proceeded to call my headwear a diaper. You’re no better than me, you AC/DC listening Klan Grand Wizard.

          • Paul_Sp

            Perhaps I did a bit, say once for every 20 of yours.
            YOU cannot have a problem with name calling.

          • ksoileau

            And you’re still going with your denial and racially motivated rants. You bigoted troll.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……….

          • ksoileau

            Of course you’re not admitting to anything. You’re White. It’s in your nature to deny even when facts are staring you in the face.

          • Paul_Sp

            And that isn’t a racist comment?

            Can you not see all of your hypocrisies? Can you see ANY of them?

            Well, I did say you seem mentally unbalanced based on some of your comments……..

          • ksoileau

            You started it. You trolled me, harassed me, and used racial slurs. You are a bonafide azzhole.

          • Paul_Sp

            “You started it”? Sounds like a child.
            Nope, no trolling, but comments here are meant to be noticed and read. Stop being a baby and thinking you were “harassed”.
            No racial slurs used by me.

          • ksoileau

            You called my headwear a diaper, you racist horse f*cking hick.

          • ksoileau

            You’re an azzhole!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            Racial slurs were used by me and I don’t give a f u c k.

          • ksoileau

            It show’s, scum bag.

          • Paul_Sp

            I will admit that I started the racial slurs, trolling, hypocrisy and the blasphemy, that’s it.

          • ksoileau

            If I’m “mentally unbalanced”, a “potty mouth”, “lack intelligence”, a “hypocrite” then why are you conversing with me? Wouldn’t that be stooping to my level, you racist hollow head.</b.

          • Paul_Sp

            You’ve referred to your headwear as having religious significance.
            What, praytell, is your religion?
            Am I to assume it sanctions all of your speech?

            If you can speak in these manners without violating your religion, what does it consider to be behavior to be strived for?

          • ksoileau

            F U C K Y O U !!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            Please get help!

          • ksoileau

            Please go F U C K yourself, Nazi ape!

          • Paul_Sp

            I can see why you’re refusing to answer what your religion is, as your language is certainly an embarrassment to it/them.

          • ksoileau

            You’re an embarrassment to your mother, that skank.

          • Paul_Sp

            And you aren’t to yours?

            Perhaps you should ask someone to listen to what you want to say here before you post it.
            If there is anyone around you (hopefully no children, good Lord!).

          • ksoileau

            F U C K YOU!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            You’ve completely lost it, my friend!
            Go to your religious leaders and ask for help if you aren’t willing to go to a therapist or anger mgmt help!

          • ksoileau

            F U C K YOU White Honky!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            Is that all you’ve got?

            Pathetic……..

          • ksoileau

            What’s pathetic is that you keep replying, you Twaat. RACIST P U S S Y.

          • Paul_Sp

            Perhaps, but not as pathetic as your racist hypocrisy and embarrassment-to-your-religion and family, high school potty mouth/limited vocabulary!

          • ksoileau

            I don’t take advice from a racist. Help yourself before you tell others to seek it, azzhole.

          • Paul_Sp

            Then don’t take any from yourself, with all the anti-white slurs and attitudes you’ve shown here.

            Nah, you don’t take advice from anyone who disagrees with you, which means from no one on any substantive matter, I would wager, from your intense lack of humility.

          • ksoileau

            And the D I C K head continues……..

          • Paul_Sp

            That can’t compete with Jesus, sucks for you….

          • Paul_Sp

            I suck for Jesus.

          • ksoileau

            WHOA!!!!!! You hit a new low you disgusting turd.

          • Paul_Sp

            It’s a shame you are such a lousy, foul-mouthed, bad person, that you would hijack my name to post your rants!
            Anyone who knows me would know I wouldn’t talk like this.

            You’ve still been too cowardly to say what religion you are, but I’m sure the leaders of it would be totally embarrassed by you!

            Such a loser…………

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a racist, scripture fagg.

          • ksoileau

            Paul_Sp is a RACIST M O T H E R F U C K E R !!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            “out of the heart, the mouth speaks”…..Jesus.

          • ksoileau

            Says the racist White Honky.

          • Paul_Sp

            Hahahaha, you are REMARKABLY blind and stupid!

          • ksoileau

            You’re call me stupid but you were just quoting Jesus a few minutes ago. I rebuke you Satan.

          • Paul_Sp

            Surely you’re not suggesting quoting Jesus is stupid. As though you’re smarter than him…..

          • ksoileau

            Just the fact that you qoute Jesus and resort to calling me stupid within the same time stamp. Hypocrite.

          • Paul_Sp

            What?! What’s hypocritical about that?
            Do you think Jesus wouldn’t think anyone is stupid?

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a racist, scripture qouting fagg.

          • ksoileau

            You’re so oblivious you didn’t realize that you were resorting to name calling by continously calling me stupid and the want to qoute Jesus in the same breath. And then want to call me a HYPOCRITE. Thats not something Jesus would do.

          • Paul_Sp

            Nope, not oblivious at all.
            Look at some of the names Jesus called the Pharisees.

            And I didn’t “continuously” call you stupid either.
            You exaggerate when it serves your purposes.

          • ksoileau

            Scroll back to your previous comments from the last several days. You’ve been continously calling me stupid , you oblivious C U N T.

          • ksoileau

            You’re using Jesus name in vain if you’re going to call people stupid in the same breath. Stop while you’re ahead. You exposed yourself as a racist and a hypocrite.

          • Paul_Sp

            Nope, that isn’t using Jesus’ name in vain at all.

            I could have called you ignorant if you prefer, slight difference.

            Oh, now we’re back to racist? Doesn’t even fit here.
            You’ve got racist down pat!

          • ksoileau

            You’re a racist M O T H E R F U C K E R who’s been spilling insults and racial slurs then wants to be pious and qoute Jesus. There is a special place in hell reserved for scum like you. You’re a piece of sh*t. You called my headwear a f*cking diaper, a disposable item that’s used to absorb and collect human excrement. You azzhole.

          • Paul_Sp

            And you’re not a racist, right….

            So what is your headwear called, and what’s the meaning of it?

          • Paul_Sp

            By the way, I’m a racist and I’m proud of it.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m REMARKABLY stupid!

          • Paul_Sp

            F U C K What I just said.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a racist, scripture qouting fagg.

          • ksoileau

            What’s wrong with you?

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m so pathetic. I’ve been carrying a conversation with a person who I think is stupid but I’m more stupid because I keep replying.

          • Paul_Sp

            I lost it. I’m a crazy mongrel.

          • Paul_Sp

            I lost it. I’m a gay scum bag…..

          • Paul_Sp

            I lost it. I’m F U C K scum…..

          • Paul_Sp

            Good lord I’m a dik head.

          • Paul_Sp

            I love telling people they need help but I’m the one that needs a metal slug in my brain.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R………

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……….

          • Paul_Sp

            It’s a shame you are such a lousy, foul-mouthed, bad person, that you would hijack my name to post your rants!
            Anyone who knows me would know I wouldn’t talk like this.

            You’ve still been too cowardly to say what religion you are, but I’m sure the leaders of it would be totally embarrassed by you!

          • Paul_Sp

            I love dictating the rules and telling people how to act religiously but I called a religious turban a diaper and call people stupid then have the nerve to qoute Jesus.

          • Paul_Sp

            I say some dumb s h i t.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m mentally imbalanced because I’m White.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m admitting that I’m an egotistical fagg, that’s it.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m so desperate to win that I’ve been calling “ksoileau” stupid many times yet I keep replying making me appear like a total jack a s s. My ego is bigger than my dik and brain.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a cocky delusional piece of s h i t.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a cocky White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m very respectful. I’ve been trolling you, called your turban a diaper, and called you stupid while quoting Jesus. I’m so unstable and stupid.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m disrepectful but I like talking out my a s s by telling people how to make nice comments by calling them stupid. The irony.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m grasping a big black dik right now.

          • Paul_Sp

            I’M WHITE!!!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m WHITE!!!!

          • Paul_Sp

            I called a man’s turban a diaper. I’m so low and stupid yet I quote Jesus.

        • Paul_Sp

          Of course you can! Just can’t speak for most men. Please read what I actually write before replying.

          • ksoileau

            ok twaat face

          • Paul_Sp

            I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R……….

          • Paul_Sp

            It’s a shame you are such a lousy, foul-mouthed, bad person, that you would hijack my name to post your rants!
            Anyone who knows me would know I wouldn’t talk like this.

            You’ve still been too cowardly to say what religion you are, but I’m sure the leaders of it would be totally embarrassed by you!

      • Paul_Sp

        I’m a White stinky M O T H E R F U C K E R….

  • Rob

    What advice would you have for a man who tries doing this stuff all the time, but has a wife who consistently acts as though only her opinion matters, will be stubborn as all get out, will not admit when she’s wrong, and the only time she backs down and changes her tune is when I act like a total jerk off?

  • Paul_Sp

    I’m a racist and proud of it. Ban me, I dare you.

  • Paul_Sp

    I’m a racist, scripture qouting fagg.

  • Paul_Sp

    I don’t give a F U C K.

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