10 Ways to Minimize Your Regrets at the End of Your Life

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Here are the last words of a few famous people:

How were the receipts today at Madison Square Garden?
~~ P. T. Barnum, entrepreneur, d. 1891

I should never have switched from Scotch to Martinis.
~~ Humphrey Bogart, actor, d. January 14, 1957

I am about to — or I am going to — die: either expression is correct.
~~ Dominique Bouhours, French grammarian, d. 1702

I’m bored with it all.
~~ Winston Churchill, statesman, d. January 24, 1965

All my possessions for a moment of time.
~~ Elizabeth I, Queen of England, d. 1603

I have offended God and mankind because my work did not reach the quality it should have.
~~ Leonardo da Vinci, artist, d. 1519

So what will your last words be? And who will be in the room to hear them? Remember how short and fragile life is. Some of you reading this email right now will not be here next year. Make every moment count right now with your family.

Take a moment, and then ponder the 10 ways to minimize your regrets at the end of your life:

Family First

Possibly the most common regret at the end of a life is, “I didn’t spend enough time with my family.” When we’re young, we are so eager to start our grown-up lives that we neglect our parents. When we’re adults in the midst of building the life we imagined, we neglect our wife and kids. What’s left at the end of that life is a sad and lonely person. Your family comes first—always. Cherish your wife. Never stop earning her love and devotion. Adore your children and spend every second you can with them.


Life has a far greater purpose beyond our human knowledge. “All I have seen teaches me to trust the Creator for all I have not seen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson. Faith gives you the inner peace in knowing that all is not in vain. Your life matters greatly. Our time on earth is but a blink of the eye in comparison to eternity. Faith in something greater than you = zero regret.

Color Outside The Lines

As soon as our life begins, society creates boxes within which we’re supposed to live. Order is certainly vital to a prosperous people. There are lines a decent human being should never cross. On the other hand, there are times when you HAVE to cross some cultural lines if joy is to ever going to find its way into our hearts. Dare to color your life outside of pre-determined boxes. Step out of comfort zones. As the saying goes, dance as if nobody is looking.

The Power Of Vision

The big picture. Our actions always have consequences, and those can be both positive and negative. A wise man has the ability to visualize outcomes before they occur. Never make decisions from a self-centered perspective. They will often grant you short-term gain, but create long-term damage to you and everyone around you. Always hedge your bets towards what is the wise thing to do. You will have much fewer regrets.

Use Your Gifts

Every human being has a unique set of gifts designed to complement and enhance this creation. Sadly, many people never realize what makes them special. Your abilities might bring you wealth, or it’s possible that they’ll never earn you a single dime. Either way, that isn’t the point. The point is to use your gifts to the best of your ability and in the way that they were created. Nurture and aggressively display the gifts that have been loaned to you for the course of your life. Use them to bring glory to the One who gave them to you.

Loose Lips Sink Ships

We all have those memories that make us cringe. The times we lost control and our mouths spewed out venom we didn’t know we possessed. When spoken in haste and anger, the words we use have the potential to create heartache and damage. Hasn’t it happened to you? Learn from the horrible memory living within you. Hold your tongue and think before you speak. Do your best to redeem yourself with those you have hurt in the past. Your soul will rest much easier at night.

Take Care Of Yourself

We often take our health for granted. It usually takes a major scare to open us up to a healthier lifestyle. Sometimes the warning never comes. We’ve all got that friend or family member that shocked us by dying too soon. No one is guaranteed to live to a ripe old age. However we can help ourselves by taking care of our bodies and minds. Commonsense and moderation are usually the keys to successful physical and mental health.

The Bucket List

We all have dreams and aspirations. Create a list of the things you wish to accomplish in this life. Some will be easy and some difficult, but none are impossible. Document these moments and live every second of them to the fullest.

Random Kindness

When we spread joy our souls glow bright and beautiful. Our spiritual well-being is critical to peace in our heart. Stand up for the person who stands alone. Offer a smile to the person who only faces scorn. Extend a helping hand to the person who has only been shoved down. Who will God send? Every single day say “God, send me.”


Release the hurt that lies within you. Grudges you continue to carry will only leave you jaded and loaded with bitterness. This type of person is no longer able to see the good in the world. Joy escapes them. Forgive those who have hurt you and let that pain go. Seek forgiveness from those you’ve wronged. In the end, life boils down to forgiveness. Nothing else matters.

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