5 Ways to Prepare Your Kids for Life’s New Seasons
I recently had a conversation with another parent who has college age children. College is when your kids finally get that independence they’ve been wanting. However, two of the children were so lonely they needed a visit from their parent soon after arrival on campus.
As exciting as new seasons are for our kids, we still need to be there for them. We need to help them prepare. They may not see the entire picture, or they may just underestimate the things they’ll face. Be sure to help them prepare for each new season in their lives. Below are 5 ways you can do so:
1. Spend time with them around this new experience.
Our kids still need us to be with them through each new experience. Don’t hover, but do find ways to still spend one-on-one time with them in this new season of their life.
2. Give them a “pass” to make mistakes.
Very few of us start off great at new things. Struggling at the beginning can be enough to discourage some kids and lead them to quit. I like to use adding simple numbers as an example. When my kids were first learning math, they made a lot of mistakes in their calculations, but now 2+2 is a simple equation for them. Let your child know their mistakes are not the end of the world.
3. Don’t compare them with older siblings.
Remind your younger children that their older siblings didn’t start out that good and don’t always compare them to their siblings. This could instigate sibling rivalry. Instead, encourage them to appreciate the work, the learning, and the improvement they are making.
4. Help make it fun.
If they are enjoying this new experience and having fun, then they’ll do the work, preparation, or whatever else is needed to make the most out of this new stage and experience. Work doesn’t have to be unenjoyable. Teaching them to value hard work is one way they’ll have fun.
5. Remain encouraging through it all.
There are going to be ups and downs. Through them all, your children need somebody in their corner. They need someone to encourage and compliment them. This is your job, so don’t miss the opportunities. Every time you see them, say “When I see you, I’m thankful that I’m a dad.”
What new season are you helping your child through?