Are you single or dating someone who you think may be the one? Or do you have kids who are dating and may be thinking wedding bells at some point? If so, you may want to consider the importance of marrying before moving in together, or teaching your kids about the pitfalls of shacking up.
More and more couples are choosing to move in together before marriage. One reason is to save on rent. Yes, saving on rent. Saving on rent is not, and should not be, a reason to live with someone who may or may not become your spouse. In fact, it is a really bad reason. Below are 3 more reasons shacking up is a bad idea.
1. Your relationship will probably end.
An article on examiner.com states that 80% of shacking up relationships end before marriage or in divorce after marriage. So, it is 80/20 against you getting married, or staying married, to that person. One reason is because there is not a commitment when you move in before marriage. A relationship without commitment will not last, and marriage is the biggest commitment you can make in life.
2. Your children will be negatively affected.
To the parents who have children, your kids are three times as likely to be expelled from school or get pregnant, they are five times more likely to live in poverty, and 22 times more likely to be incarcerated. All because you choose to live with someone you’re not married to.
3. It makes you lazy.
As a married man, I know that once dating ends the relationship changes. Living together removes the “being your best” part of your relationship. Kind of like most job interviews. You wore the suit to the interview, but once hired you show up in khakis and a polo. And, if you’re living with a woman and getting some of the “benefits” of marriage – sex, having someone to help around the house, sharing the bills – you can get lazy about taking the next step in your relationship.
If those statistics and info provided above are not enough, the Bible considers shacking up the opposite of a legitimate marriage. A legitimate marriage consists of a union between a man and woman who have made a covenant and commitment. Shacking up involves neither. Marriage was a union created by God, and is a union God blesses.
How will you educate your adult children about the dangers of shacking up?
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