The best remedy for marriage conflict is marriage communication. Disagreements, fights, impasses, separations, and divorce can be traced back to poor communication more than any other factor. Likewise, listening amounts to some of the best relationship medicine around.
Listening works best when we ask good questions. Good questions indicate bona fide concern. The man who asks good questions is already well on the way to communication excellence. We have come up with 10 questions you should ask your wife every year. Here are the first two:
1. What do you think is going right in our relationship?
It’s been a while since you took the marriage vows. But it’s still true that positive affirmation leads to more productive change than negative evaluation. It’s helpful to identify our strengths. Once we know them, we can play to them. Building each other up is always a win-win.
2. Where would you like our relationship to be this time next year?
It doesn’t matter where we are, there’s always room to be better. She might say, “I’d like to see more spontaneous affection.” Or, “I want us to be moving forward together in our faith.” She could say, “I want our relationship to involve more fun!”
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Huddle up with your wife this weekend and ask her these 10 questions.