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Uncommon Marriage Simulcast

 

Watch below for a preview for our Uncommon Marriage Simulcast.  You and your church can sign up here.

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Our Long-Distance Relationship Advice

 

The less distance you have in your relationship, the better. But sometimes work, school, or life situations dictate the need for a long-distance relationship. No relationship is easy, especially a long-distance one, but all hope is not lost if this is a possibility for you. Long-distance relationships, even long-distance marriages, can work, but you must have three things to make it work. This is one of the things my wife Lauren and I talk about in our book…

“We would never have considered this type of living arrangement if we felt our marriage wasn’t strong enough to withstand it. Putting that much distance between a husband and wife normally isn’t good, so Lauren and I don’t recommend it for all couples – especially those early in their marriage. But we had been married twenty years and felt we were strong enough, unified enough, and committed enough to make it work. In addition, we both felt it was the best decision for our children.”

If circumstances are leading your relationship down that path, please consider these three things before moving forward:

1. How strong is your marriage?

2. How unified are you?

3. How committed are you to one another?

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Why Marriage is Like Football

 

Think back to when you first fell in love with your wife. You couldn’t get enough of her, and your heart was going 100 miles per hour. To me it is very similar to a football game. Learn how from Chapter 11 of mine and Lauren’s new book, Uncommon Marriage.

“I compare it (marriage) to playing a football game. You start off with energy fueled by adrenaline for the opening kickoff. You’re so pumped up, and there’s just nothing like it. The whistle blows and your find yourself flying down the field 100 miles per hour. But you don’t have enough adrenaline in your body to keep the emotion at that level for sixty minutes. You have to calm down a little bit and play the rest of the game.

So many problems in marriage occur when spouses notice that the intense physical attraction is no longer there and assume that must mean that the love is gone. They figure either they’ve changed or the other person has changed, but in any event, they’re no longer getting the instant emotional payoff they had at first.”

Does that sound like your marriage? At some point this happens because you just can’t keep that up. When it happens, don’t confuse it with a problem with your spouse or your marriage. You are no longer getting that emotional high, but it’s okay. Just stay calm and play the rest of the “game.”

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