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What to Do if You (or Your Kids) Didn’t Meet Your Goals This Year

This can be a good time of year for some, but a bad time for others. December can bring optimism, pessimism, and sometimes outright depression to us when we begin to reflect on our year. When I sat down last year, I determined to make 2015 my best year ever! In fact, I went through a goal-setting course called Best Year Ever to help me do so.

In all transparency, while 2015 was a phenomenal year, I didn’t meet every single one of my goals. Some I fell short on. Some I should have never even set out to achieve. Some were modified and new ones were established. So what do you do when you or even your kids don’t meet your goals that you set out to accomplish? No matter what you accomplished or didn’t accomplish you have the opportunity to learn from it all, and use those lessons to help you become better.

But getting better won’t come automatically. You’ll have to be intentional about learning and growing from it all. Here are some insights I learned through my great, but not perfect, year.

The journey vs. the goal

I once heard someone say the greatest achievement of pursuing goals is the person you become during the journey to achieve those goals. I can attest to that. I actually realized this before I even started the journey, and the journey just made it sink in even more. When I looked at the goals I set then looked at my habits, even my character, I knew changes had to be made. I needed to grow. The ups and downs and the growth throughout was amazing to experience. Reaching the goals I’ve reached is the icing on the cake.

The mistakes vs. the successes

I made plenty of mistakes throughout the year. Some were minor, others were major; but, there is nothing like learning from your mistakes. Mistakes are some of life’s greatest teachers. [Tweet This] I had a great teacher this year because of these mistakes. I know some things I don’t need to do. I also know what to be prepared for in the future. And most importantly, I know more about myself and where my real strengths lie as well as my weak areas that need improvement.

The positive vs. the negative

One of the biggest things I learned from my mistakes was how my very own mindset impacts me. There were times I was my biggest enemy and deterrent to my own success. I allowed negative self-talk, doubts, and fears to impede my progress. One of the biggest areas I had to fight this in was the failure of one of my biggest goals this year. I set a goal of 15-20 miles per week in training for my first mini-marathon. I failed miserably. I may have had one good month or one good partial month. But through it, I realized my negative self-talk prevented me from actually getting out each day and running. When your focus remains positive, you make huge gains, but when you focus on the negative, negative results followed.

As you reflect on the past year and look ahead, use your failures to help fuel your successes. When you reflect with your kids on the things they accomplished or didn’t accomplish in the previous year, keep these in mind. When all is said in done, you’ll be better prepared to have your best year ever, and you can help your kids do the same.

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Jackie Bledsoe

Jackie Bledsoe is an author, blogger, and speaker, but first and foremost a husband and father of three, who helps men better lead and love the ones who matter most.

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