When It Comes to Parenting, History Repeats Itself
I’m certain you’ve watched the movie Groundhog Day. Just in case you haven’t, here’s a brief summary. A local TV weatherman gets caught in a time loop and ends up repeating the same day again and again. Eventually, he begins to reexamine his life and priorities. As I think about this, I believe we, as dads, can end up in the same situation, a real life Groundhog Day that repeats some of the same things over and over through our kids.
Think about it, have you been repeating some of the same behaviors or habits of your father? Were they good or bad? History repeats itself and our kids have a high likelihood of repeating the things we do.
If that is the case then we need to make sure what they are repeating is going to add value to them and those around them. Here are 9 behaviors you will want your kids repeating.
One of the great passages from Scripture is about love and it comes from Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians. He begins by listing attributes, but says they mean nothing if done without love, some would even be annoying (like a gong or clanging symbol). Selfless love expressed in action is something you want your kids repeating.
We have the ability to choose. We can choose anger, we can choose bad words, we can choose sadness, or we can choose joy—no matter the situation. Teach your kids to look at the bright side and to find the good in all situations.
If you are like me, you constantly ask your kids if they are being peacemakers. And based on what is happening in the world today if we had more peacemakers, things may be different. Teach them not to seek conflict but to play their part in resolving or softening it.
This is where I struggle, and I think most of today’s society does. We live in a right now world where almost everything is available on demand. But the phrase: Good things come to those who wait is still true. Show your kids how to tolerate pain and trials calmly without complaining.
Similar to peace, this would change not only our families but the world around us. Teach them to act and speak kindly to one another by modeling it to them in your family interactions as well as outside the home.
Teach them what is good and how your family will represent that. Model making right choices and help guide them to do the same.
Let your yes be yes, and your no be no. When you say you are going to do something, do it. [Tweet This] Whether you know this or not, your kids notice when you don’t show up, when you are late, when you leave your shoes, socks, or paperwork lying around while asking them to clean their room. Be faithful to your commitments.
I recently heard a definition of humility that I’d never heard before. It was something like: Realizing that God and other people are responsible for your success. We live in a self-made world where everyone takes full credit for what goes right but doesn’t always take full credit for what goes wrong. Be humble and show your kids how to be humble.
Take the necessary actions needed to accomplish something, even when it’s hard. Discipline is easy when things are easy, but when things get hard or we don’t enjoy them, discipline feels like what it is—discipline. Show your kids by your own self-control how to accomplish things and live the life you hope to live.
What’s one behavior that you think would add the most value to your kids’ lives?