After the latest royal wedding, my wife started to watch the show Suits, which is the show Meghan Markle (the bride), was on for seven years. While I think this a ridiculous reason to want to watch a show I started watching with her. Now I am addicted to it. It’s a show about high-powered lawyers fighting to overcome attacks and power plays. While there isn’t a single character on the show I would want to be friends nor even spend time with, I admire one thing. No matter how bad things seem or how big the fight, they never give up on the fight or one another.
All Pro Dads never give up on their kids under any circumstance, even when it’s tempting.Poor grades, undisciplined behavior, substance abuse, all types of medical and psychological issues, dating, attitudes…those are just the tip of the iceberg of potential pitfalls in parenting. It is no picnic to be a parent. Even in the most ideal situations, we still worry about our children and always will. However, All Pro Dads never give up on their kids under any circumstance, even when it’s tempting. We find a way or go down with the ship trying. That is what it means to be a man. Never give up on anyone. Here are 5 encouragements to never give up on your children.
1. Believing in Them is Valuable
The world is filled with stories of success that started with just one person believing in what another was capable of. Pardon the much used cliché, but don’t stop believing in your child. We all have unique talents that are just what the world needs. So stick with your child through thick and thin until they discover who they are. If you give up on them, they will most likely give up as well. Your child is a gift from God to the world. Wait on them. And Him. Their time will come.
2. Perseverance Pays Off
The trials of a troubled child can be incredibly frustrating and situations can become downright depressing. But the breakthrough could always be at the very next turn. You have invested so much of your time, heart, and entire being. Don’t give up now. Persevere with a determined spirit to win the future. Strong-willed children can very well end up growing into a leader that is not easily bent towards doing what’s popular, but what is right.
3. There Could Be a Valid Cause
Many children and parents suffer for years only to find out later that their child’s behavior and achievement issues were due to any number of disorders. Dyslexia, hyperlexia, separation anxiety, conduct disorders, and the list goes on. Some things are just beyond the love of a parent to fix and needs outside help. The good news is almost all disorders are manageable and some are even correctable. Talk to a trusted professional when needed.
4. Changing the Environment Can Help
What is the nature of the environment that your child spends most of their time in? Is there tension in the home? Are there elements in the neighborhood with a negative influence? What is their school like? The environments that your child is exposed to are constantly shaping their behavior. To the best of a parent’s ability, we must do the things we can to provide the most nurturing and stable environment we can for our children. Listen to and observe them carefully. What are you seeing and hearing from your child’s environment? Perhaps a change is just what is needed and can be a respite and source of encouragement for your entire family.
5. Hold On to Hope
Hope for a better tomorrow is what living is all about. Striving for what can be. Striving for who we can become and where we can go. Have perpetual hope that God loves your kids even more than you do, and that He is just asking you to do your best. That’s all you can do. Children are a long-term investment whose best dividends may not yield for decades. Just be faithful and patient. One day at a time.