When it comes to how to discipline a child choosing the consequences is very important. When I was growing up, my dad did a couple of things that got through to me. My dad spanked me a couple of times and I kind of got the message through that. Then as I got older, he came up with a different punishment that may seem a little strange. When I became more active and started playing sports he made me sit down on the couch, watch TV, and not move until he told me. For me, that was the worst thing in the world; I was squirming because I wanted to be outside with my friends. I wanted to be active and sitting in front of the television was punishment.
In this day and age that would probably not be an effective punishment. So I need to think about other things for my kids. Here are the strategies I normally use.
Taking Away Electronics
For most of my kids, unfortunately, taking away their electronics – no iPad, no video games – that’s the worst thing I can do. It’s especially painful for my boys.
Take Away Something That Hurts
You’ve got to think about something that is going to impact your kids and give them something to think about the next time they have a choice to make in their behavior. That’s what it really comes down to thinking of something that hurts them in a way that they will think, Gosh I don’t want to lose this privilege so I’ll think before I act. You need to know how each child thinks and operates to know what’s going to make that light bulb go off in their head. That’s how we handle it in our house.