Sometimes it seems our culture is built around the bottom line: What have you done for me lately? often comes well ahead of Good morning! Not only at work but sometimes at home too. Everything is itemized, counted, evaluated, and stacked up for comparison. But purposeful, balanced people tend to experience more success. So go to work with purpose and come home the same way.
This can often be achieved via the elementary vehicle of intention. Simply making the choice to engage our environment with a positive spin has profound and sustainable results. People who make the choice to smile, for example, actually experience positive feelings and goodwill; likewise, they project those positives onto those around them.
Research demonstrates that operating inside a positive framework is a better predictor of productivity than intense nose to the grindstone effort or dog-eat-dog competition. Likewise, coming home in a positive frame of mind is positively correlated with family harmony. So what have you done for your family lately? When it comes to life, go with purpose both at work and at home. Living by the following five truths will give you, not only with a balanced life but one that is more purposeful and content.
1. Joy begets joy:
People with a positive, purposeful attitude tend to bring positives to the experience of those around them. At home or work, you are a catalyst; when we chose to bring along a positive spirit, it lifts everyone’s game. Make a game out of this and take note of people you effectively bring around via a smile or by simply refusing to be cynical. Start small, maybe target one person, then let it grown.
2. People with a balanced life are more effective at work and at home:
Nose-to-the-grindstone people burn out quickly, and they also self-sabotage relationships. Balancing work with family enriches both experiences. Invite a nose-to-the-grindstone colleague to a casual lunch; launch a birthday card initiative in your office; put your cell phone in the drawer and invite your spouse for a long after-dinner walk. Changing yourself will cause you to be a catalyst for change in others. The fact is, if failure has been your constant companion, disengaging from such an obviously ineffective model (unbalanced, workaholic, “no life”) could be the exact jolt you need—career and relationships both.
3. People who walk in the door with a sense of purpose run into less opposition:
It’s as if we telegraph positive outcomes when we walk into a situation purposing cooperation, success, and belief. When you park in your driveway at the end of the work day, visualize offering words of affirmation to your spouse and positive interactions with your children… before you walk in the door. In other words, purpose family harmony, expect positive interactions, then deliver words of affirmation and peace.
4. Positive intention is a leadership initiative:Effective leaders don’t push, threaten, or bully, they invite.
Effective leaders don’t push, threaten, or bully, they invite. There is little that is more effective than walking into the office or the front door at home purposefully willing ourselves to be leaders in terms of cooperation and resolve. Be a leader by modeling listening, concern, encouragement, and belief. At home, don’t think about what she should have said/done/apologized for; instead, be the man who demonstrates reconciling love.
5. Choose contentment rather than waiting for it to chose you:
The first step is to recognize that contentment, balance, and living with purpose are all electives. Being proactive in terms of attitude is always something we can all chose to do. I’ll invest more in relationships after I’ve got this next promotion won’t hack it. The man who is giving, invested in his family and actively choosing balance will have more assets to bring to the relationship and the job.
Huddle Up Question
Huddle up with your kids and ask, “What are three positive things that happened today?”