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Top New Year’s Resolutions Committed Couples Should Never Make

Everyone likes a good set of New Year’s Resolutions. They’re expected, they’re fun, they’re glib, they’re trendy and, sometimes, they’re inspirational. Once in a while, they stick; most of the time, they don’t.

  • “I resolve to lose ten pounds.”
  • “I resolve to go to the gym five times a week.”
  • “I resolve to read a book every week.”
  • “I resolve to put my credit card in a lockbox.”
  • “I resolve to maintain a healthy, gluten-free, fat-free, preservative-free, organic diet.”
  • “I resolve to get a vacation fund going—starting today!”

Yeah, yeah, yeah, Blah, blah, blah. Resolved today. Done by the end of the week. Then we’re either disappointed, disheartened or, if we’re honest, maybe a little bit glad that the game is over. Either way, what we’ve really done is to take a step or two backwards.

So, this year, how about bucking the trend and actually doing something unique? Here are 5 top new year’s resolutions to not make as a couple:

  1. Lose each other in the rush: Time passes very quickly. Life with children is even faster. If we are not deliberate about our relationship to our spouse, it will slip away from us like sand through your fingers.
  2. Spend money we don’t have: The time to put the brakes on runaway spending is now. “I will not use the credit card without first talking with my spouse.” The power of this resolution is that it doesn’t require us to do anything; it simply draws a line with a promise not to cross over.
  3. Go more than six days without a date: A date for a married couple can take many forms. One week may not seem like a long time, but a week is only the first step in the journey toward alienation. If we don’t draw the line somewhere, the drift is on.
  4. Keep secrets: No financial secrets. No relationship secrets. No job secrets. Trust is a huge factor in a marriage that works. [Tweet This] We won’t keep any secrets also means we will never break trust.
  5. Give up: Yes, this is a take on the famous Winston Churchill quote. But it remains such an important concept. So often in today’s world, we are all too flighty! Where is that resolve to see things through? Going through a rough patch? Never give up! Trouble with one of the kids? Don’t you dare give up. Struggling with your passion, your intimacy? Never, never, never give up.

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Derek Maul

Derek Maul is the author of five books, a nationally recognized men’s resource, a committed encourager, and a pilgrim in progress. He divides his time between writing and traveling to speak about the fully engaged life.

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