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7 Things Parents Do to Make Their Kids Hate Sports

 

Sports for kids—whether its baseball, soccer, or lacrosse—can be great at teaching them teamwork and discipline. But that benefit can quickly be lost when a mom or dad puts too much pressure on their child. Avoid these 7 things parents do to make their kids hate sports.

1. They forget their children are kids.

It’s easy to get caught up in the pressure of turning our kids into super athletes. But when that happens, we start to expect our children to train like adults. Well, they’re not adults. Yes, they should be focused on doing their best, but their bodies are not able to bear the strain of grown-up size repetition. Plus, the joy of sports is having fun. If you expect your 8 year old to have the focus and work ethic of a high-schooler, you’re expecting too much.

2. They embarrass their kids.

I just read an article about a father who would yell out to his son, “You’re playing like a girl!” at his son’s games. In front of everyone. Parents also embarrass their kids when they coach from the stands, yell at umpires and refs, and confront the coach in an inappropriate way.

3. They compare their kids.

You might not even realize you’re doing this one. If you say, “That Abby has amazing ball control,” your child is hearing, “My mom thinks I’m not as good as Abby.” More blatant examples of hurtful comparisons include, “Why can’t you move around the bases like Jack?” “If only you practiced as much as Sophia, you’d be good too.”

4. They don’t show up.

Sports are a big commitment, so if you sign your children up to play, make sure you’re all in. That means making every game you can. It may seem like you’re spending all of your free time at the field, but you’re also building memories and showing your children that you believe in them.

5. They overschedule their kids.

It’s common these days for kids to join travel teams as early as 8 years old. You’ll hear the parents say, “He loves soccer so much. It was his idea.” It might have been your child’s idea, but you are the one who can wisely weigh the cost to your child. Is it really wise to let your children stay up late several nights a week at practices and games? Is it best for him and your family to spend all weekend traveling to tournaments? Many travel team kids are burned out by the time they’re in middle school. Just something to think about.

6. They live through their kids.

Some parents were not good athletes growing up, so the fact that their children are very athletic amuses them. But sadly, there are parents who were super athletic growing up who expect their children to be just like them. When they’re not, the parents push, berate, and voice their disappointment. Find a way to let your kids shine. If it’s the sport you or your spouse love, great. If it’s not, accept your child and his preferences as is.

7. They don’t look out for their kids.

If your child is being treated badly by a coach, you need to step in. There is a right way to talk to your child’s coach, so be sure to take that approach. But by all means, don’t let anyone belittle your child to the point that their confidence is shaken and their spirit is broken.

  • Scott Weissman

    I have a question on this topic. Do you think it is unreasonable to expect your child to practice sports on a regular basis on their own, I’m thinking 10 minutes a day or every other day, nothing major, if they are participating in sports, and on a competitive level with financial obligations and time and travel commitments from me.

    With the understanding that it is definitely his choice on what he wants to participate in and have other commitments, which of course our number one priority being school and homework. I look at this as being similar to expecting your child to practice their instrument everyday. And if your house and Community is similar to ours, kids do not go outside and play with their friends, because that’s what I would ultimately want and then we wouldn’t have to be traveling driving distances to practice as much. Maybe that’s how you figure out whether or not your child really wants to play, if they’re doing it on their own.

    I know I’m rambling now, but man it’s tough finding that balance of encouraging, knowing they would be good if they put their phone down for a few minutes they could be good, and leaving it to to them to decide if they love it and making the commitment on their own.
    And in case you couldn’t feel it, I love being a dad, best/toughest job around!
    Thanks for any comments

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