In the book Captivating, author Stasi Eldredge writes about a woman’s deepest need:  “Little girls want to know, Am I lovely?  The twirling skirts, the dress up, the longing to be pretty and to be seen—that is what that’s all about.  They are seeking an answer to their question.  When I was a girl of maybe five years old, I remember standing on top of the coffee table in my grandparents’ living room and singing my heart out.  I wanted to capture attention—especially my father’s attention.  I wanted to be captivating. We all did.  But for most of us, the answer to our question when we were young was ‘No, there is nothing captivating about you.  Get off the coffee table!’”

“Nearly all a woman does in her adult life is fueled by her longing to be delighted in, her longing to be beautiful, to be irreplaceable, to have her question answered, ‘Yes!  You are lovely.’  And down in the depths of our hearts, our question remains.  Unanswered.  ‘Am I lovely?  Do you see me?  Do you want to see me?  Are you captivated by what you find in me?’  We live haunted by that question.”

Don’t let your spouse live her life haunted.  Here are 10 ways to let your wife know she’s captivating. And don’t forget to enter our Father’s Day Wish List Giveaway and tell your wife what you want for Father’s Day on Sunday.

Huddle up with your wife tonight and say:  “You are captivating to me because ____.