No one ever wants to be one of those annoying parents. Have you ever thought about something your parents did when you were a child and said to yourself, I’m never going to do that when I’m a parent? Maybe you’ve even thought, I’m going to be better than that. Then you find yourself doing that very thing. I’ve been there.
A question I would get a lot when I was coaching was how do you deal with a player who has a bad attitude or not the right attitude. There have been many talented teams who weren’t able to accomplish the type of success they could have had they had the right attitude. As a leader and a father it’s important to help mold and shape children or the people you are leading to buy into the culture you are trying to create. There are 2 things that I would try to do with players I thought didn’t have the right attitude.
We all deal with fear. Whether it is fear of speaking in public, fear of flying, fear of failure, or many other kinds, fear can paralyze us. Many young people today will look at their parents and think they don’t experience fear. But you and I both know that we do. I have had many fears in my life. Life is about overcoming our fears. That is what I try to teach my children. This is what I tell them about how to overcome fear.
One of the most important gifts a father can give his children is time together creating memories. Having experiences together gives us a chance to bond. One of my favorite things about my childhood is all of the time my dad and I spent with one another. It was important for my development and sense of self. That is why I have to try to make sure my kids experience as much with me as possible. So I try to create times together they will remember forever.
Fortunately, I have had a lot of wonderful experiences with my children. It’s tough for me to remember all of them. I tend to think first about the most recent. So, if I had to pick my top 3 experiences I would have to narrow it down to these recent ones.
I have been asked many times what is the best parenting advice I have ever received. For me, it goes all the way back to 1984. Our first daughter Tiara was just born and Ron Blackledge was an assistant coach with me on the Steelers staff. He had children already and this is what he told us.
When I asked him why that was his favorite memory he told me it was because that was the last thing we had done together. It made me realize what kids need most from a parent and child relationship is this one thing.
The teenage years bring with it a rush of new urges and emotions, particularly romantic attraction. Right now we have a sixteen-year-old son and a fifteen-year-old daughter at home. They haven’t started dating yet, but they are on the verge of it. The desires are there and it has made me think about what I need to teach them about dating. As I think about it, there are 3 principles I want my kids in teenage relationships to live by.
In March 2009, Chicago Public Schools administrators proposed a new rule prohibiting high school coaches from using profanity while performing their coaching responsibilities. To my amazement, I was asked to go on a national radio show, not to debate whether this was a good rule, but to discuss whether it was even possible for coaches to comply.
My father has always been a big part of my life. When I was a teenager he took a job as a teacher at a college in ______ which was around two hours away from our home in Jackson, Michigan. Since we wanted to finish high school in Jackson he sacrificed and lived away from us for a time. I didn’t realize how difficult that must have been until I experienced the same thing coaching the Colts while my family remained in Tampa. However, even though he was living far from us he was still engaged in our lives and unified with my mom. He would always talk to us on the phone and spend many hours in the car driving to our events to remain connected. I always felt loved and that he was there for me.
Those are some of the things I think about when I remember my father. He was self sacrificing and always present. When people ask me, “How do you want to be remembered as a father?” I think it would come down to the following things.
Preparing for games as an NFL coach is a tremendous challenge. Each week brings a different team with players of excellent and unique talents. It’s important to understand the strengths and weaknesses of the opponent when crafting a game plan. Fatherhood also brings with it a lot of challenges. When people find out that I […]