I have been asked many times what is the best parenting advice I have ever received. For me, it goes all the way back to 1984. Our first daughter Tiara was just born and Ron Blackledge was an assistant coach with me on the Steelers staff. He had children already and this is what he told us.
When I asked him why that was his favorite memory he told me it was because that was the last thing we had done together. It made me realize what kids need most from a parent and child relationship is this one thing.
The teenage years bring with it a rush of new urges and emotions, particularly romantic attraction. Right now we have a sixteen-year-old son and a fifteen-year-old daughter at home. They haven’t started dating yet, but they are on the verge of it. The desires are there and it has made me think about what I need to teach them about dating. As I think about it, there are 3 principles I want my kids in teenage relationships to live by.
In March 2009, Chicago Public Schools administrators proposed a new rule prohibiting high school coaches from using profanity while performing their coaching responsibilities. To my amazement, I was asked to go on a national radio show, not to debate whether this was a good rule, but to discuss whether it was even possible for coaches to comply.
My father has always been a big part of my life. When I was a teenager he took a job as a teacher at a college in ______ which was around two hours away from our home in Jackson, Michigan. Since we wanted to finish high school in Jackson he sacrificed and lived away from us for a time. I didn’t realize how difficult that must have been until I experienced the same thing coaching the Colts while my family remained in Tampa. However, even though he was living far from us he was still engaged in our lives and unified with my mom. He would always talk to us on the phone and spend many hours in the car driving to our events to remain connected. I always felt loved and that he was there for me.
Those are some of the things I think about when I remember my father. He was self sacrificing and always present. When people ask me, “How do you want to be remembered as a father?” I think it would come down to the following things.
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