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10 Ways to Be a Man of Integrity

    Imagine going on a journey with just supplies and a compass. As you go about this journey, the people you encounter are telling you go to a different direction than the compass. Who do you follow? Do you follow the guide of others? Or stick to the instrument that is meant to guide you on the journey?

    Integrity is the internal compass we must use as we go through the journey of life. When put in situations that could comprise our integrity which do you follow: the world around you or your internal compass? 

    One of the best definitions of character we’ve ever heard goes something like this: “Character is what you do when no one else is looking.”

    This is one reason golf is such a great life-lesson game. It’s the only professional sport where the participants call penalties on themselves.

    Men of integrity value what is honest, true, noble, trustworthy, kind, and right, ahead of personal gain. Once integrated into our foundational operating system, integrity ceases to be optional or “add-on”, but instead becomes a way of life.

    Here are some suggestions that will help once we decide to make integrity a foundational value:

  1. Root yourself in a moral foundation. 

    It’s been said that everyone has a god, the question is only, “What god do we choose?” But many of us fail to even address the issue. Once considered, this question can give us a firm place to anchor.

  2. Look for the positive.

    Load your consciousness in a positive direction by scanning the news for examples of integrity. Then talk about those (with friends and family) rather than the latest scandal. Make endorsing integrity a stronger value in your life than criticism and scorn.

  3. Resist the temptation to compartmentalize your life.

    Too many of us are different people in different places. Determine to be a man of integrity; then practice at home, at work, at play – wherever you are.

  4. Determine to live for others ahead of yourself.

    The root enemy of integrity is selfishness. The “Golden Rule” requires treating others the way we would like to be treated. It is impossible to follow the Golden Rule without a boost to personal integrity.

    Related Article: 10 Ways To Put Yourself Second

  5. Participate in an active accountability group.

    There’s a great story about the great leader Moses when his friends Aaron and Hur stood with him to hold his arms up high until the battle was won. We all need friends to hold our arms up, to help keep us strong.

  6. Partner with a friend where you need to make progress.

    Take accountability to the next level by asking another man to hold your feet to the fire where necessary. This can be a mutual arrangement. We know a man who asks his friend to call several times a week and ask point blank if he’s been looking at porn. The promise of a pointed question can help any area of weakness.

  7. Be in the habit of sharing EVERYTHING with your wife.

    When we don’t keep any secrets from our spouse, it tends to have an impact on who we are. 

  8. Practice the habit of imagining the presence of someone whose opinion you value.

    What if my father was present at this business meeting? I wonder how grandpa would enjoy being part of this foursome? Would I tell this joke in the presence of my wife? How would my kids feel if they listened in on this conversation?

  9. Hold your children accountable.

    It’s cliché to say that, “to teach is to learn.” But the truth is, every lesson we bring to our children is something we need to hear too.

  10. “Principle of the week”.

    Elaborate the teaching equation to highlight a “principle of the week” at home. A week devoted to conversations about honesty. Another week highlighting trust. Then a week where everyone in the family pledges one act of selflessness per day, then shares over dinner.


    Related Resource: Integrity When No One is Watching


    Huddle up with your kids tonight and ask: 

    Do you know what integrity is? How can you have more of it?

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  • Gurgleplex 4 weeks ago
    Good Advice as always.  Easier said than done.
  • Alfonso Romo 10 months ago
    This is TERRIFIC, is a good program, my question is: this program is teaching in spanish? You have material in my language? my english is not very good.
    If possible send me information, thank you and GOD BLESS YOU coach Tony and team
  • Grnbaykwaps 3 weeks ago
    I have followed these top 10 as a father with my 4 children (2boys & 2girls). Things worked out just fine, they now have blessed me with 5 grandchildren. Today I'm repeating the 10 with a grandson who lives with me. His single parent mother and I try to follow all the rules without father he so needs to learn from! We take him to yearly All Pro Dad events and just love the whole day together!!!
  • James_lake 3 weeks ago
    I love this All Pro Dad!
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