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10 Tips For Great Communication With Your Kids

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On Saturday, October 27, 1962, the United States and the Soviet Union were on the brink of nuclear war. The Cuban Missile Crisis was in its terrorizing 14th day. Communication between President Kennedy and Premier Khrushchev had been reduced to a naval game of cat and mouse. On this particular day, the U.S. Navy repeatedly attempted to surface a Soviet submarine with depth charges. They were unaware that the sub was armed with nuclear warheads. The Soviet sub-captain, furious and lacking good communication with Moscow, ordered the nuclear torpedoes battle ready. Luckily, he was calmed down by his second captain and a catastrophe was avoided. After the crisis ended, a “Hot Line” was established to ensure quick and direct communication between the heads of state.

Communication breakdowns in the family can cause significant relational barriers. Good communication is essential for maintaining healthy relationships, nurturing our children into adulthood, and avoiding unnecessary conflict. Avoid a Cold War by following these 10 communication musts.

1. Eat Together

Life for the American family is fast-paced. Hours that used to be spent at the dinner table talking have been replaced by running to activities. Valuable hours of molding and shaping our kids have been taken away. Protect family meal times. Make a point of eating together at least two or three times per week. No TV or phones.

2. On the Move

Don’t waste the time your family has in the car running around town. Rather than reverting to music, video games, or the DVD player…start asking questions. Get them talking. Use open-ended questions. Check out this app. It is filled with questions.

3. Listen

Developing our children effectively requires getting to the heart. “Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.” Pay close attention to their words, body language, and tone. Use every sense to go below the surface and connect with their cries of the heart.

4. One-on-One

Spend one-on-one time with each child. When you do, the dynamic changes dramatically. Getting them out of the group environment with focused attention will open them up. Your quiet, less dominant child, in particular, probably has a lot to say when given the chance.

5. Walk in Their Shoes

Educate yourself on the issues they face. Peer pressure, drugs, alcohol, dating, school, etc. Different issues face your child every day. Know them and stay current. Remember that life is much different now than it was even ten years ago.

6. Texting

This is how a majority of kids communicate with each other. You need to be here. BUT do not be annoying. Keep it short and light. No nagging or lectures allowed. Coordinate pick up times or send them little words of encouragement.

7. The Right Approach

How we guide and discipline our children makes all the difference. Personalities and needs are different. Some need a firm hand, while others need a gentle touch. Measure your approach based on how your child reacts.

8. Get Off Their Backs

Are your conversations dominated by constant correcting? This can cause a child to lose self-confidence and shut you out. Balance your conversations intently. Choose the right moments to speak into their lives. Give them room to make mistakes and fail. Ask them if they’d even like for you to share your opinion.

9. Be An Open Book

Share your experiences, both good and bad, with your child. It makes you real and relatable. Sharing builds trust, exactly what you are trying to earn.

10. Have An Open Door

Be yourself. If you are relaxed and open, your child will respond back with the same. They should know that “your door is always open” to discuss life’s issues. If love and trust exist in your home, communication will flow smoothly.

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