When my dad talked about his childhood, he mostly shared stories about crazy things he would do. However, one night he talked about his parents sending him to boarding school. My brother-in-law mentioned that he must be grateful to his parents to have given him such a good education. Suddenly he looked sad and said, almost to himself, “I don’t think you love your kids if you send them away like that.” We were all shocked. We had no idea he didn’t feel loved by his parents. It was a wound he lived with his whole life.
We were created to love and to be loved. It’s important to love your children and to make sure they know they are loved. Here are 10 ways to show your kids you love them.
Your son’s room is a complete mess. Your daughter just got her 3rd speeding ticket and she is still 16. One brought home a poor grade in science. One snuck out of the house and didn’t get home until 2 am. Through it all, never let your child feel as if your love for them has limits. These are the moments you let it shine the brightest. Unconditional love is the greatest gift in life.
2. Spend Time With Them
Time slips away so fast. Don’t waste it. Your child wants your attention more than anything else. Make it a top priority to spend as much time with your children as you can. There will be plenty of time to do your own thing when your kids grow and move out. For now, take every opportunity to be with them. For now, take every opportunity to be with them.
3. Stay the Course During the Tough Times
Don’t shy away from crucial moments, hard times, or big decisions. This is when your love is needed the most. You continue to do the right thing, the responsible thing, not the popular thing. The love you show now will be reflected back when they are adults.
4. Get to Know Them
Find out what makes your kids tick. What stirs their passions. Help them develop those traits. Our children’s biggest fear is disappointing us. Make sure they know that could never happen.
5. The Language of Love
Tell your kids you are proud of them and why. Tell them you love them every day. This lets a child know they are special to you. Say it loud, say it proud, and say it a lot.
6. Show Them Affection
Some men have a real hard time with this one. Some dads just aren’t prone to hugging and kissing. Your child needs your affection. If you don’t hug your kids, chances are they will try to find someone who will in an unhealthy way.
7. Celebrate Them
Always celebrate the big moments in their lives like birthdays, recitals, the first day of school, and graduation. Make a big deal out of everyone. These are the days they feel special. Who do they want to notice more than anybody else? Dad.
8. Teach Them What You Know
They watch every single move you make. They are learning from you no matter what you are doing. Teach them everything you know. How to fix a flat tire, ride a bike, drive a car, how to hit a baseball, how to go on a date, etc. Also, make sure you are patient.
9. Believe in Them
They have to learn to stand on their own two feet. After teaching them, let them fly. Believe in your child. It will mean the world to them.
I believe our most important duty as a parent is to make sure our children know their Creator. Give them the foundation that they are loved by the God who created them.
How do you show your kids that you love them?
Huddle Up Question
Huddle up with your kids and ask, “How do you know I love you?”