One of the most important questions a man could ever ask himself is, “Why am I here?” What could possibly be more important than why God made you? Personally, I believe the two most important times in a man’s life is when he finally discovers WHO he is (his true IDENTITY) and WHY he is (his PURPOSE).
The problem is, most men either were never taught or shown how to identify their purpose. So, allow me to share with you 3 simple ways (steps) to discovering your purpose.
Step 1: Hang around passionate, purposeful people.
Let’s face it, the people in our lives will either influence us in a positive way or infect us in a negative way. As you get closer to finding your purpose, all it takes is the wrong person at the wrong time to discourage you from pursuing it. Innocent phrases from those we love and care about the most can extinguish even the most heartfelt desire:
“You can’t do that.”
“You’re not ______ enough to do that.”
“You won’t make any money doing that.”
Likewise, if you hang around people who are passionate and know WHO they are and WHY they are, they will likewise encourage you to do the same. As the cliché goes, “Birds of a feather, flock together.” So, start flying with the eagles and stop hanging around turkeys.
Step 2: Spend more time by yourself and less time around other people.
I know this step seems to contradict the first step, so let me explain. I’m not talking about being a recluse and isolating yourself from society. But it’s almost impossible to “find yourself” and discover your purpose if you’re always around a crowd of people. We often use other people as a welcomed distraction, because we feel uncomfortable being alone for any length of time.
When finding your purpose, you’re going to have to know, learn, and understand yourself better. And you can only do that through self-reflection. Instead of binging on sports, Netflix, gaming, porn, or drinking, try taking 15-20 minutes day, without distraction, and studying your secret desires, unique talents, skills, gifts, and abilities.
Step 3: Ask yourself and answer the tough questions.
This is the natural progression from Step 2. Once you choose to spend some time alone, without distractions, take out a sheet a paper and write down your answers to the following questions without fear, judgment, or justification. Don’t worry, no one ever has to see them; so be honest:
- What topic, idea, issue, or problem in the world do you talk about, that when you do, you lose track of time? Hint: Your purpose is always associated with a problem YOU were meant to be an answer to.
- If you could master, research, and study anything, deeply, what would it be?
- When it comes to your unique talents, skills, and abilities, what do you receive the most compliments for?
- When it comes to your unique talents, skills, and abilities, what do you have the most confidence in?
- Given your unique talents, skills, gifts, and abilities, what would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
- What would you attempt to do professionally (for free) if you never had to worry about money and paying bills?
- What do you find yourself doing that brings you the most joy, but at the same time, it seems to bring joy to others when you do it?
If you answered all of these questions honestly, without fear, judgment, and justification, you will see an obvious pattern to your answers. This is a clue of what you were made and created for.
The world is waiting for you to pursue your purpose. It’s not a question of can you, but will you?