MISTAKE #1: Easy Access – The vast majority of children over eight years old own their own video game system – more than one when you include hand-held systems such as Gameboy. The risk of video game addiction increases dramatically when your child owns a system because it is much harder to control the amount of time spent due to ready availability. As with any other behavioral addiction, easy and frequent access to the object of obsession makes it more difficult to avoid potential pitfalls. Therefore, if you fear your child might become addicted, seriously consider NOT purchasing a system. They can still play once in a while at a friend’s home. If you do own a system, consider purchasing only group games and treating the system like a board game that is kept in a box and brought out periodically for an hour or so then boxed up and returned to the closet. Such approaches can drastically reduce the risk of obsession without totally eliminating games from a child’s experience.
MISTAKE #2: Starting Young – The earlier a child begins playing electronic games, the sooner he or she is exposed to the patterns that lead to addiction. Similar to eating habits, children who become accustomed to junk food lose their appetite for healthy eating. Kids also “acquire a taste” for how they want to spend their recreational time. Those who develop patterns of “natural” play rather than “virtual” play are more likely to become well rounded, happy adolescents. Those who are introduced to the dopamine inducing “high” of prolonged video game play often become bored with any other form of recreation.
MISTAKE #3: Using As Reward System – Many parents admit that the promise of video game play time is the only thing they have found that can successfully motivate their child to do homework, chores, and other productive activities. And while the benefit of completed school assignments and other tasks may seem like a positive aspect to video game obsession, the long term negative consequences far outweigh any short term gain. Depending upon video games as a child’s sole motivation for responsible activities subconsiously reinforces the notion that completing a job, reading, learning, etc. are necessary evils to endure rather than rewards in and of themselves. Other motivational rewards, such as money, an ice-cream date with dad, a movie outing, etc. are far more effective and avoid feeding a propensity toward video game obsession.
MISTAKE #4: “One More Level?” – When asked to shut off the video game system, it is a rare child who quickly obeys and ceases play. Invariably they respond instead with a plea for “just one more level” or time to defeat the current villain before they can “save my game.” As a result, many parents end up allowing their child to spend much more time playing video games than they intended or often realize. As one recovering video game addict said – “If you say you intend to restrict the amount of time a child spends, you better ask yourself whether you can really do it. Kids are very good at pushing and pushing for more time.” Time flies when kids play video games, in part because we parents fall into the “one more level” trap.
MISTAKE #5: Ignoring Your Gut – Many parents have a bad feeling about the amount of time their child spends playing, talking and thinking about video games. There is a nagging sense that allowing so much video game time may have long-term negative consequences. But they second guess the feeling, writing it off as being old fashioned or too strict. “Its just the way kids are now days!” Besides, they don’t want the inevitable conflict that would come from restricting or removing the game system. But video game addiction effects a growing number of kids – especially boys. Parents know their child better than anyone else and are urged to trust their gut and intervene if needed to help their child live a better life.