The times when it’s easy to choose the right path are beautiful. The door is wide open with big arrows pointing the way and we just know that we have done the correct thing. That was the way is was the night I met my wife and mother of my children. I wasn’t looking for her. My social life was full. I was a simple musician living a dream. I was young, learning, growing, and transforming into a man. I never knew what I was missing until she came into my life.
She wasn’t looking for me either. The two of us had no idea what we would become together. Yet, no decision has ever been easier for me.
Most of the time figuring out how to choose the right path is complicated, foggy, and filled with anxiety. [Tweet This] As our responsibilities grow and more people depend on us , it becomes even more difficult. We need experience, wisdom, patience, and courage to find the correct way. Here are some key factors when determining how to choose the right path.
Faith and Values
“When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.” – Roy E. Disney. What does your moral foundation and faith say? Learn to trust these guides and work to strengthen them. Just be careful because they can be countered and confused by emotions and desires that want a different outcome. As Mr. Disney implies in his quote, it is highly important to be very clear what your values are and to follow them.
Your past matters a lot in these moments. By this time, we’ve all made good decisions and poor ones. Take that experience and apply it to the current circumstances. What did you learn from each instance?
Positives and Negatives
List both the positives and negatives about the decision at-hand. Which side is more weighted? Who stands to gain the most if a particular path is chosen and who stands to lose? Decisions have consequences, and it’s wise to determine all possible outcomes. [Tweet This] The last thing we want is to gain significantly in one area but lose devastatingly in several others. The idea is to go with the best possible chance of overall success.
“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.” – John Quincy Adams. If there is no need to rush your decision, then, by all means, do not. Take it to prayer. When we act in haste, it often leads to unforeseen circumstances and an entirely new set of difficulties. Step slowly and thoughtfully.
Always strive to be a man who is capable of rising to the challenge. We can’t shrink away from difficulty. Seek the wisdom that will take you out of your comfort zone when required and keep you in it when necessary. Have the courage to do what is needed.
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Huddle Up Question
Huddle up tonight with your kids and ask them if they’ve ever had a hard time making an important decision.