We’ve got kids in all age brackets now, from 35 all the way down to five. All kids, at some point, will start to question their parents and talk back. They’ll also talk in a disrespectful tone they have heard from other people. At that point, it’s time for a talk. How should a dad handle this? This is how we handle disrespectful kids in our household.
1. Be calm.
When your kids disrespect you, it’s important to remain calm. Many times it happens in the heat of the moment. This is one of the best things I learned from my parents. They were able to stay calm. Unfortunately, I have not always been able to do that. Staying calm makes it easier for the child to hear what you have to say.
2. Treat them with respect.
Remind your kids that you respect what they have to say. Giving them affirmation and respecting their perspective shows them the right model. It lets them know they are heard and it lets them know what you want from them. Show them first.
3. Remind them of the parent/child relationship.
You are the parent and your child is the child. Remind your kids of that. You have authority and it’s important that they treat you with respect. The Bible talks about “honoring your father and mother.” Not only is it the right way to live, but kids need to do that if they if they want to be respected themselves.
Sound off: How do you handle kids being disrespectful and talking back?
Huddle up with your kids and ask, “Why do you think it’s important to speak to me respectfully?”