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10 Ways to Discipline Your Child

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Joe, a Play of the Day subscriber, wrote us saying, “Years ago, my sister (a department head at Harvard University) shared with me one of the most valuable tools I have for disciplining my 8-year-old daughter. Whatever the discipline is (no TV, no bike, etc.), I never say how long it will be for. I just tell her when I feel she deserves it, the discipline will be over. So, I don’t say ‘no bike’ for a month, and after a week feel bad and give it back. I just say, ‘No bike. You’ll get it back when I think you deserve it.’ This works great for me and I also have no guilt to deal with when I calm down.” Great advice, Joe!

For more great insights like these, here are 10 ways to discipline your child:

1. The Do-Over

Everybody deserves a second chance, right? If your child has shown a lack of respect in some way, give them the option of a “do-over.” Send them out of the room, and have them start all over again. It gives them practice in treating others well.

2. Silence is Golden

Sometimes it is hurtful words or it could be a loudness that disturbs the peace. Taking away the privilege to talk for a certain amount of time will calm them down and give them time to think.

3. Choose Your Battles

Every single issue does not need to be a war. [Tweet This] If you are constantly at odds with your child, they will eventually tune you out. Whether it is an outfit you don’t like, coming in a couple minutes after curfew, or other things small, it may be best to let it pass. Choose wisely which issues are important enough to tackle.

4. Take a Breather

Sometimes we all need a “breather.” When voices start to get raised, continuing on that path will only worsen the matter. Send them to their room and create a cooling off period. Then approach them when everyone has calmed down, particularly you.

5. Use the Rod Rarely

“Spare the rod, spoil the child.” We all know this ancient wisdom, but it must be used with caution. Don’t do it in anger. It can be tough at times, but always keep your composure. If need be, take a walk before engaging. Have them sit on their bed and wait. Sometimes the waiting is worse than the actual spanking.

6. Natural Consequences

There is a school project your child has known about for 2 weeks. It is the night before it is due and she is in a panic. You warned her a week ago not to wait until the last moment, but it happened anyway. She is now pleading for you to assist her. Do not help her and let her experience the result of her actions. The anxiety, loss of sleep, and bad grade will teach her to make better decisions next time.

7. The Take Away

Every child has something near and dear to them. It is not underhanded for that item to come into play, if needed. Favorite stuffed animals, cell phones, gaming devices, etc. can all be used to your benefit. If your warnings have fallen on deaf ears, take an item away for a time and let your child once again learn that actions have consequences.

8. Give Away for Good

For the most severe and perhaps repeat offenses, there is the giveaway. Take one of their favorite things and give it to Salvation Army or Good Will. Have them physically hand it over.

9. Grounding

Teach them that when we cross set boundaries or break laws we lose freedoms. It may not be easy to tell your big, brown-eyed daughter she can’t go to the movies with her friends or to the school dance. Be strong and hold the line.

10. Prevention

Become a student of your child and their world. Then use insight in guiding them before problems occur. Talk openly with your child on a daily basis. Reward the many great things they do. Support them with lots of love when they hit the mark and when they don’t. Building a high level of trust and understanding with your child will prevent a great deal of issues that would require a discipline tactic.

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