annoying things parents do

5 Things Parents Do That Annoy Other People

One day, when I was in my twenties and very single, I was having lunch with a friend. Actually, I was trying to have lunch. There was a family with young kids sitting near us and their kids were running around our table. The parents didn’t do anything to stop it. I assume they were either fine letting their kids disturb others, had no idea how to confront it, or assumed their kids were too cute to possibly disturb anyone else. Either way, I was completely annoyed at their thoughtlessness and lack of action.

Since becoming a dad I have been humbled by many of my single guy judgments of parents. It looks a lot different when you are the parent. Recently I was in a restaurant and the same scenario happened, kids running around my table, parents not doing anything about it, and with my new perspective I realized…it still annoys me. Maybe even more now. There are things parents do that tend to irritate people, including other parents. Confession: I am guilty of some of these as well. Here are 5 annoying things parents do.

1. Think The World Should Bend Over Backwards For Their Kid

We all want our kids to succeed, but when we routinely find ourselves questioning the standards and perspectives of teachers, coaches, referees, judges, other parents, and school officials then the problem is probably us. There are definitely times when questioning is called for and our kids are wronged, but if it occurs multiple times then it’s probably time to fall in line.

2. Think Their Kid Never Does Any Wrong

“Not my angel! It must have been those other kids.” I don’t know if we are defending our own kids, our parenting, or perhaps both. The reality is our kids are capable of terrible behavior, whether we raise them well or not. We need to remember that when we start getting defensive. The earlier we confront our children’s bad behavior the better chance we have to change it.

3. Talk Incessantly About Their Kids

One of the best parts of All Pro Dads Days is when dads share why they are proud of their sons and daughters. It’s important to give our children public commendation but keep it brief. Anything more than three sentences and people are tolerating you, not enjoying you. When it comes to talking incessantly about your kids, a friend of mine has said, “You think you’re making friends but actually you’re losing them.”

4. Rebuke Their Children In Front Of Other People

Okay, I’m definitely guilty of this one. We have a sensitivity to how our children act in public because we feel like it reflects on us as parents. Naturally, when our kids step out of line we want to jump all over it. In the end though it not only embarrasses the child but everyone else as well. Great coaches teach during practice, not during the game. We need to mold our kids in private, not in public.

5. Allow Their Kids To Be Disruptive In Public Without Doing Anything About It

While we shouldn’t rebuke our kids in public that doesn’t mean we allow our kids to act disruptively without doing anything. When kids cross boundaries that affect others, a parent should call the child over and inform them of their unacceptable behavior. However, it should be done in a quiet manner, either taking the child to a private location or whispering in the ear.

Sound Off

Are there any others you would add to this list?

BJ Foster

BJ Foster is the Director of Content Creation for All Pro Dad and a married father of two.

  • Scott Smyth

    True, true….also, I wish I wasn’t annoyed by so much stuff.

    • BJ_Foster

      Me too Scott, me too.

  • Chris Davis

    While I agree with the majority of the article I somewhat disagree with #4. We as Americans tend to put a negative connotation on the word “rebuke” because of OUR definition. Luke 17:3 says “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” Now Jesus wasn’t implying that we yell at the person uncontrollably in anger. The word rebuke could be translated “increase their value”. Jesus is basically saying that if one (or more) of His disciples is acting contrary to the example He has set then they should be corrected in a manner that shows them that they are worth more. In other words they are “acting like $1 when they are worth $1 million”. Now my children are Christians and believe that Jesus is their Lord so my household may have a different outlook on scripture than others. However, if everyone lived by this one philosophy of Jesus then the world would have more people (including children) who have a better self-worth who also treat others with respect!

    • BJ_Foster

      Thanks for the comment Chris! Just to clarify, I definitely don’t have a problem with rebuking. My point was about doing it in front of others. I completely agree with you regarding your analogy about acting like $1 when they are worth a million, great word picture and mindset about rebuking.

      • DUB

        I believe the point Chris was trying to make is that he feels rebuking in front of others is okay, as long as you are doing so in a kind/loving manner, not yelling at or demeaning your children in front of others, which is bad in front of others or in private. I think the important factor is just not going overboard, because you as the parent are doing extra because it embarrassed you.

        For example, if your kid cut in front of another kid in line, it is fine to tell them that they did so and have them apologize and let the other child back in front of them. It would be wrong to get upset and go on and on about the infraction. If you feel like they have a reoccurring issue with it, then you can address it further in private. #4 & #5 somewhat oppose each other when not clarified clearly enough. I think basically, when in public try to keep the correcting to a minimum, and as calmly as possible, and you can go more in depth on certain issues in private when necessary.

        • BJ_Foster

          Got it. Good point, I completely agree with you. Thanks for the clarification.

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