5 Things to Say to Your Kids Every Day
There’s a lot that could be written to define an “All Pro Dad.” And one distinctive characteristic of an All Pro Dad turns out to be the kinds of things he says to his kids.
So here, All Pro Dads, is your very own list. “You know you’re an All Pro Dad when you say these kinds of things to your kids every day.”
“Hey, Junior, I love You”:
Love, and we’ve talked about this before, is one of those qualities that’s never subject to inflation. “I love you” doesn’t lose its effectiveness when it’s said on a regular basis. Tell your kids you love them. Say it every day; say it several times a day.
“So, Buddy, what are your plans for the day?”:
This is not just about knowing, but about interest. It means a lot to the kids that dad cares about what they’re up to and takes the time to compare notes. “Here’s my business planner. I’ve got three big meetings. What do you have scheduled for the day?”
“I am so grateful to be your dad”:
Our children need to know how we feel about being their parent. So much is lost when communication breaks down and kids stop relating to their dad or their mom as whole, feeling, sentient beings. We’re not talking about manipulation drama here, but we’re talking about communicating some of the passion and the joy we feel in response to this ongoing privilege of parenting.
“Have a great day at school, and don’t forget who you are”:
Your child is growing into his identity, his sense of self, each and every day. The most important attribute is his identity as a child of God. Your family name may be Smith, or Wagner, or Hernandez, but your child’s identity always has been and always will be “Made in the Image of God.” Remind him of that every day.
Words of Affirmation:
The idea here is encouragement, “out-loud” belief, and a “heads-up” positive direction into the day. Repeated, ingrained affirmation delivered with the firm conviction of someone who loves your children and who believes in them. Do this every day; deliver your lines with sincerity, and make them count.
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