George Williams of the National Center for Fathering has written about the importance of play for fathers and children. He points out that, for many younger children, the language of their world is play. When fathers don’t speak that language, but instead try to relate in an adult way, kids can’t understand or relate, and may experience feelings of frustration, isolation, or ignorance.
There are many benefits to child’s play: Children learn to communicate and cope with problems; they make connections and learn about limits and morals; and they develop intellectually. Play comes naturally to most dads. Some of us just need to do it more.
– It isn’t about you. Ask your child what he wants to do and allow him to lead.
– Be childlike. The doorway to your child’s world is a small one. Get down on your child’s level. (And remember, there’s no room for embarrassment.)
– Make play a priority. Don’t let this important time with your child get pushed to the back burner. Schedule regular playtimes together.
– Play hard. Your child knows when you’re only playing half-heartedly. You have to be completely, actively involved.
– Have fun. Laughter is a good gauge for how well the play is going. Don’t worry so much about the rules or keeping score. Just relax and enjoy being together.
source: fathers.com
