The importance of having regular date nights in marriage is something we emphasize here at All Pro Dad. But have you considered double dating in marriage?
The first year of our marriage, we didn’t have many friends who were married. This left us feeling isolated on occasion. Then we connected with other couples who shared similar values and views on marriage. In hindsight, that was a saving grace for us during those tough, confusing, and immature days together. The double dates provided us with friends who could relate to our marital experiences. It gave us accountability partners that wouldn’t let us continue making bad choices and people with whom we could have fun.
We wouldn’t be where are without being connected to other couples. Here are 3 ways you can make this happen.
1. Take the initiative.
Sometimes it just takes one couple asking the other couple. When you connect with a couple at work, church, or at other functions reach out to them. Get to know them and ask them to do something together. It’s amazing how a simple connection can lead to a mutually beneficial friendship with another couple.
2. Join a small group at your church.
This is how it happened for us. We took a marriage class at our church and met some couples our age. One of the couples started a small group and we began hanging out monthly. Many of those “double dates” became group dates.
3. Connect with the parents of your kids’ friends.
Connecting with those parents is a win-win. Not only is there potential to have a great double dating couple to hang with you, but you also get to know more about the family of the friends your kids choose. Make a point to know the parents of your kids’ friends.
Huddle up with your wife and ask her what couples she would enjoy going on a double date with.