“I need your help. I’m a pretty good dad, but I think I’m losing my wife,” Ted recently shared at a men’s group meeting. “Slow down, man,” one of his friends said. “What do you mean, ‘losing’? Is Carrie sick?” Ted responded: “I mean I don’t know how interested in me she is anymore,” he said. “You know, holding hands, kissing, hugging …” The conversation turned to ideas for how to be romantic to your wife.
With a little effort and creativity, you can sweep your wife off her feet.Our group gave Ted lots of ideas he could use to win his wife over, like taking her on dates, being courteous, being spontaneous, romancing her, and making her feel special. Ted listened hard and even took notes. When he left that evening’s meeting, he was ready to take the first steps toward winning his wife back. With a little effort and creativity, you can sweep your wife off her feet. Here are 5 ways to do it.
1. Date her.
How did she fall in love with you in the first place? You dated. You did fun stuff together. You held hands in the movie theater. You took walks on the beach. See the correlation?
2. Be considerate of her.
Hold the door for her—the car door and any other door you can find. Hold the chair and especially do this at home. Say “thank you” for dinner, for coffee, for a pressed shirt. Bring her a cold drink on a hot day. Mute the television when you’re talking (or better yet, turn it off). You say you’d do anything for her, right? So do it.
3. Make her feel special.
Send her flowers for no reason. Leave the occasional “I love you and this is why” note on her pillow, on her desk at work, or under a wiper blade on her car. Stop her and tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky you are to have her.
4. Clean yourself up.
Shower, shave, brush your hair, wear nice clothes around her and deliberately take care of yourself. Do it for her. The Italians call this bella figura. But it’s about more than looking good; it’s about realizing the importance of making a good impression.
5. Plan something.
Take over the planning and execution of a special outing, either for the family or just the two of you. Show her how much she means to you by taking the initiative and relieving her of the burden.
Sound off: How do you romance your wife?
Huddle up with your family tonight at dinner and tell your kids about your first date with their mom.