Ted recently shared at a men’s group meeting, “I need your help. I’m a pretty good dad, but I think I’m losing my wife.”
“Slow down, man,” one of his friends said. “What do you mean, ‘losing’? Is Carrie sick?”
“I mean I don’t know how interested in me she is anymore,” Ted said. “You know, holding hands, kissing, hugging…”
The ensuing conversation turned around ideas like dating, courtesy, spontaneity, effort, “romancing,” and making her feel special.
Ted listened hard and even took notes. When he left that evening’s meeting, he was more than ready to take the first step, or two, on the road back to romance.
Here are some of the ideas Ted went home with. They’re ideas backed up by real-life experience with real men. Try your hand at being a Prince Charming and romance your wife.
1. Date Your Wife.
So how did she fall in love with you in the first place? You went out. You did fun stuff together. You held hands in the movie theater. You took walks on the beach. See the correlation?
2. Add a little courtesy.
Hold the door for her—the car door and any door you can find. Hold the chair and especially do this at home. Say “thank you” for dinner, for coffee, for a pressed shirt. Bring her a cold drink on a hot day. Mute the television when you’re talking; better yet, turn it off. You say you’d do anything for her, right? So do it.
3. Make her feel special.
Flowers for no reason. Leave the occasional “I love you and this is why” card on the pillow, her desk at work, or under the wiper blade of her car. Stop her, ask her to stand still, then back away to walk around her, saying things like “Wow,” and “I can’t believe how beautiful you are,” and “I’m the luckiest guy in the world.” We’re just talking about a little effort and imagination here.
4. Don’t be a slob.
Shower, shave, brush your hair, wear nice clothes around her, and deliberately take care of yourself. Do it for her. The Italians call this, “Bella figura.” But it’s about more than looking good; it’s realizing the importance of a lifestyle that emphasizes aesthetics and good behavior.
Huddle Up Question
Huddle up with your family tonight at dinner and tell your kids about your first date with their mom.