My wife and I were very near the point of burnout. Between work, kids’ activities, and ministry commitments, we were worn out.
We knew we needed a break, and if we didn’t get one our marriage could suffer. The first step was to look at the calendar and find an ideal time, but our family calendar was packed.
So we had to ask ourselves a question, “What is most important—our marriage or all this other stuff?” We decided our marriage was, and a getaway was crucial for our marriage. The only other question was how? This is how you do it:
1. Determine how much money you’ll spend.
Let’s be real. Budget, financial resources, or sometimes lack of financial resources can dictate what you do for your marriage getaway. Be creative with a small marriage getaway if that is what your budget allows. Here are some creative ways to make it work on a budget: stay at a friend’s vacation home, use frequent flyer miles or credit card points, use birthday or holiday gifts as a contribution to your getaway fund, and use websites and apps to find great deals.
2. Make childcare arrangements as soon as possible.
Once you choose some potential dates, start to call family and friends who you trust to care for your children. Have a backup or two.
3. Spend a day or so discussing what you want to do.
Research, research, research. Do your homework together and determine what will be the most refreshing and rejuvenating for your both. Get referrals from friends and check online to give yourself plenty of options.
4. Don’t let anything stop you.
My wife and I noticed (after several years of marriage) that anytime we planned to do something big that would be a blessing to our marriage, it seemed everything and everybody was set on stopping us. We’d either cancel or get mad at each other. Be prepared for this, and be prepared to not let anything stop you from going or having a good time.
Huddle Up Question
Huddle up with your wife tonight and ask: “What are the biggest barriers to getting away together and how do we overcome them?”