When you talk with your kids about sex matters. How you do it is just as important.

In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by renowned family expert Jim Burns, founder of HomeWord, to pinpoint when the right time is to bring up the topic of sex with your kids and how to handle such a touchy subject. We get it. This can be intimidating for dads, but conversations about sex must be handled well.

We know this can be uncomfortable, but if we don’t tackle this topic with our children someone else surely will. You may not like what they teach your kid! As Ted and Jim discuss, it’s important for dads to take the lead in this area.

Why This Matters

There are many competing voices trying to influence our children about sexual topics. Dads need to prepare for this and teach kids about sex with their family values in mind.

Key Takeaways

Timing and Approach: The discussion focuses on finding the appropriate age and approach for these conversations, tailored to each child’s individual development and maturity level.

Building Trust and Relationships: The episode stresses the importance of building a strong parent-child relationship based on trust and open communication as the foundation for healthy discussions about sex.

The Playbook: Application

• Start Early and Regularly: Begin age-appropriate conversations about sex and relationships early and continue them throughout a child’s development.
• Create a Safe and Open Environment: Foster a trusting and open environment where children feel comfortable asking questions and sharing their concerns.
• Utilize Resources: Utilize resources such as books, online articles, and other reliable sources to support your conversations and gain further insights.
• Model Healthy Relationships: Model healthy relationships in your own marriage and with your children.

Important Episode Timestamps

• (00:00 – 02:15) Introduction & Guest Speaker Dr. Jim Burns

Ted Lowe introduces the episode and welcomes Dr. Jim Burns, who is joining from Hawaii.

• (02:15 – 04:18) Meet Dr. Jim Burns: A Passion for Family & Parenting

Jim shares his background, family life, and why he’s passionate about helping parents and kids.

• (04:18 – 05:11) Big Question: How & When Do I Talk to My Kid About Sex?

The main topic of discussion is introduced, addressing parental fears and uncertainties.

• (05:11 – 07:52) Why Parents Struggle to Talk About Sex

Exploring the cultural and personal barriers that make this conversation difficult.

• (07:52 – 11:59) The Right Age to Start the Conversation

Why parents should begin discussing sexuality with their kids as early as ages 3–5.

• (11:59 – 14:10) The Influence of Culture & Social Media on Kids’ Views on Sex

How external influences shape children’s understanding of sexuality and relationships.

• (14:10 – 18:00) Dads as Safe Spaces: Encouraging Open Conversations

How fathers can be intentional about making these discussions safe and ongoing.

• (18:00 – 21:02) Addressing Pornography & Sexual Curiosity in Kids

How exposure happens, its impact, and why early conversations matter.

• (21:02 – 24:37) Practical Strategies for Having ‘The Talk’

Tips for engaging kids in discussions at different developmental stages.

• (24:37 – 27:48) Pro Move of the Week: Ask This Simple Question

“What do you think about [fill in the blank]?”—a conversation starter for parents.

APD Pro Move:
Ask your kids, “What do you think about ______?” with no planned response. 

“Kids want your wisdom, not your lecture.” – Jim Burns

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