when you lose it with your child

What to Do After You Lose Your Temper

As a coach, I  always did my best to keep my emotions in check. I always tried to speak to my players calmly when I communicated what they needed to do. So this might surprise you: Believe it or not, I have a lot of experience with repairing relationships after blowing up or losing my temper with my kids. I have plenty of patience in other areas, but my kids seem to erase my patience quickly.

Many dads can understand my experience. We want to communicate to our kids calmly and clearly, but then we get frustrated and lose our cool. So what do you do when that happens? How can you bring healing to the relationship? Here is the most important thing to do when you lose it with your child.


If we want our kids to do something, we need to model it first.

It’s hard for us as men to do, but we have to model the right things to our kids. We consistently ask our kids to apologize when they are wrong. If we want our kids to do something, we need to model it first. So tell them you are sorry for yelling and then you can get back to correcting their behavior. However, if you don’t apologize after doing something wrong, then whatever words you use to correct them will be hollow.

Earn some points: Are you married? If so, share this iMOM article with your wife: 7 Things to Do Instead of Yelling at Your Kids.

Sound off: What do you do after losing your temper with your kids?

Huddle up with your kids and ask, “What are some things that make you angry? How do you deal with the anger?”