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10 Specific Compliments to Give Your Children

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Baseball umpires are often vilified by fans and players alike. The best umps, like the best offensive lineman, are anonymous.  You should hardly notice them. But when they do make a mistake, they’re noticed and hated.

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So what does this have to do with parenting? Everything. Is the only time your children get real attention from you when they blow it like an umpire does when in front of hometown fans? And when your kids do well, do you hardly notice them? It’s sad but true, many times. Keep a mental checklist of your compliment to criticism ratio to your kids. If you are being overwhelmingly negative and not encouraging enough, you are a bad influence. Make sure you season your communication with your children with grace, praise, and love. [Tweet This]

To get you started, here are the 10 specific compliments to give your children:

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1. Recognize and compliment character

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We live in a world where integrity is neither consistently taught nor widely-expected. When our children demonstrate honesty, kindness, trustworthiness, and reliability, that’s a great time to take them aside and offer a sincere compliment.

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2. Compliment obedience and respect

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It’s too easy to fall into patterns of disapproval where the only time we notice is when kids do wrong. Rather than waiting for disobedience or disrespect (then coming down like a ton of bricks), try noticing obedience and respect. “I don’t always remember to tell you, but you are an awesome young man, and I appreciate the way you treat your mother”.

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3. Appreciate them for simply being part of the family

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“Every time I see you, I’m thankful that I’m a dad.” Kids need to understand that they are valued simply because they are.

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4. Compliment contributions to the family

“Clearing the table (sweeping the porch… putting out the trash) makes a real difference. I appreciate your contribution.” Kids need to understand that what they do makes a difference, that the adults notice, and that pitching in is a good part of family life.

5. Compliment the quality of a child’s work

“This is one clean porch, mister!” “You mowed the lawn right up to the edge.  Way to go!  I’m so glad you take this job so seriously, it shows.” Doing a job at a high standard is always worth noting.

6. We can compliment the effort even when the result is not the best

“Your willingness to help makes me happy! Now we need to take a look at how you can get the trash to the curb without leaving a trail!” Compliments can be an important part of our role as teachers.

7. It’s important that we compliment children when they achieve something new

“Wow! That’s a huge leap forward for you there in math, pal.” “Awesome! I’m not at all surprised after you worked so hard.” A well-placed compliment can keep a positive ball rolling.

8. We can compliment sense of style even if we don’t exactly share their taste

We don’t want to hedge kids into being clones of dad or mom. “When it comes to putting together an outfit, you certainly have some flair!” “I can tell that you put a lot of thought into the way you look.” “I’ve never seen a table set quite like that before – you have an amazing imagination!” It’s not useful to limit compliments to the narrow range of our own taste.

9. Compliment steps toward a long-term goal

“Son, the improvement you’re showing is commendable. Thanks for trying.” Waiting for perfection before we’re willing to dish out a compliment is inefficient, may dampen enthusiasm, and does little to help the process of growth.

10. Try complimenting their friends

But only do this when you can do it honestly! “Your friends are the greatest!” “That Jimmy is such a positive young man.” “You know, it gives me a lot of confidence to know you use common sense in choosing your friends.”

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