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10 Ways to Know You are Being a Good Father

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Carrying a sixty pound backpack in Colorado’s rocky wilderness is hard. If you are used to breathing air at sea level, the high altitude makes it even more physically grueling. When our guides stopped and surveyed the land with a puzzled look, my heart sank. Something was wrong. We should have come to a creek which would confirm we were on the right track. But it wasn’t there. We had taken a wrong turn. Eventually we backtracked and found the correct path and the creek.

As fathers we can sometimes feel lost. We can have self-doubt about how we are doing as dads. While we will never be perfect this side of heaven, if you practice the following 10 things consistently you’ll know you are on the right track to being a good father. You will know you are setting the example your children need.

  1. When you help your kids with their schoolwork.
  2. When you take an interest in their hobbies.
  3. When you show affection to your wife in front of them.
  4. When you advocate that they speak to you and each other respectfully.
  5. When you just enjoy being with your children and they with you.
  6. When your son or daughter comes running to you when they get hurt.
  7. When your calendar is full of things to do with your children.
  8. When you calmly and gently discipline your children without yelling or screaming.
  9. When you tuck your children into bed at night and tell them: “I love you”.
  10. When you know their friends by first name.
Sound Off

What are some other things we can do to be good dads?

  • gb1234

    I would caution against #7. Yes we should be involved in our kids’ lives and we should want to enrich them with varied good experiences. However, there are limits. One problem making your life revolve around older kids is that they become irresponsible, feeling entitled to the fruits of everyone else’s labor, narcissists, spoiled brats, self-centered. A problem with over-scheduling younger kids is that you can lose family bonding and a sense of peaceful home life. Such kids can become overly anxious, neurotic, and can come to believe their worth is only based on their achievements.

    • gtalbot55

      Very good point. I am doing everything I can to be a good/better father, which is why I subscribe to this email. But sometimes I feel like more and more the kids are running households. How often when you were young did your parents ask you what/where you wanted to eat? Almost never. It seems like these days, parents get way too much input from their kids. I make sure I am involved as much as I can be in my kids live, but at times, if feels like maybe I am too involved and that they require my attention every second I’m around. Our kids need to see us parents being productive and not always revolving our lives around what they want. I am curious to hear others opinions.

      • Dave

        I think the author was saying that your calendar has more activities with your kids than other activities such as work and adult activities. Scheduling more time for your kids than anything else

  • with our youngest in a psychiatric facility, I spend my time advocating for mental health care for everyone, especially for children. prior to doing this, I was working on my doctorate in business.

    amazing how our kids can impact our career goals.

    my bride and I have 5 kids. we have a full calendar.

    • Eruandee Prayitna

      that’s wonderful. God bless your family

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