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5 Reasons Why Marriage is So Important

If you are married, you may have discovered why marriage is so important and experienced some of the good that comes from it. Or, maybe marriage was hard for some of you and you’re no longer married. However, there is hope. But that hope starts with realizing that marriage can be more amazing than you have experienced or even thought.

I’ve been married many years and have experienced both the amazing as well as the very hard. Marriage eliminated loneliness for me and my wife. We are more effective working as a team versus working as individuals. Through challenges, we have both matured. And a side bonus, we have wonderful kids that came from our union.

Those are all good and wonderful, but I’ve also discovered something even greater. God has created marriage to reveal more about Him and how awesome He is. And this is revealed through many of His purposes for marriage.

Here are 5 reasons that explain the importance of marriage:

1. Beginning

Marriage is the beginning—the beginning of the family—and is a life-long commitment [Tweet This]. It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union. This union mirrors the one between God and His Church.

2. Oneness

When a man and woman get married, the “two become one.” Marriage is a bond like no other. It gives us a life partner, a teammate, as we move through the challenges of life together.

3. Purity

Marriage is designed for purity. We are under assault by temptation nearly every minute and from many directions. The bond of marriage gives us the support to defeat that temptation by engaging in deep, satisfying love—a love that gives to, and receives from, our mate physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

4. Parenting

When a marriage produces a child or receives a child through adoption, it is one of life’s greatest blessings. Roughly 40% of children being raised today are in a home without a father. The effects of that fact are staggering. Father absence causes increases in mental and behavioral disorders as well as criminal activity and substance abuse. But when children are raised in a healthy marriage, they get a front row seat to see and experience the lasting benefits of strong family.

5. Love

Marriage is designed to mirror our Creator’s unconditional love for us. It’s a love that will always be there and will never leave us or forsake us. When a man and woman love one another with that unconditional love, contentment follows and joy abounds.

Sound Off

What do you think is important about marriage?

  • CJ

    After nearly 22 years of marriage, No. 4 is about the only thing that rings true on this list. I have 3 amazing, wonderful, God-loving children.

    During the trials of underpaying jobs, unemployment and other difficulties in life, it was too hard for my wife to stick by my side to the point where she emotionally checked out of our covenant a few years back to the point of having a nearly 2-year emotional affair with a man in our church.

    I fully admit that I haven’t been the best husband and I loved her too much and put her as my No. 1 over God for the majority of our marriage up until the last couple years.

    We are still together and trying to work things out. She is “trying” to fall in love with me again. I am trying to be patient and follow Christ first and reconcile.

    It boils down to there are no magical formulas in life that will keep your marriage strong. I should know because I listened to every Christian radio program and read every Christian marriage book I could find for my entire marriage to be a Godly husband, father and man and all it has gotten me is nothing but misery and heartache. You can sew all the Godly seeds you want and it does not guarantee you will reap a Godly harvest. From everything I have witnessed and experienced, it’s more of a cap shoot. You can be as intentional and well meaning as you want and you still aren’t going to get the results you desire in life as a man, as a husband, as a father or as an employee.

    • MajorJohnnyLujan

      So CJ. What you are saying is that the Bible’s blueprint for marriage doesn’t work. I hear you saying that you have listened to every program and read every book but have you applied these principles that you have heard and read. I know how most men are. We hear something or read something and we think that this is all we have to do. The Bible says that we are to be doers and not just hearers. God is clear what a husband needs to do for his wife and that is love her as Christ loves his church giving himself for her. My Pastor has always said that marriage is two selfish people learning how not to be selfish. If you will forgive your wife, serve her, which means put her needs before your own, and treat her as the weaker vessel, in other words do not treat her like a man because she is not, then you will see the results you have been looking for. You can be blessed now and not just when you get to heaven. I will be praying for you my friend. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to contact me at [email protected]. God bless you.

      • CJ

        Yes, you are totally correct MajorJohnnyLujan. I have been the over-doer, to say the least. My wife’s friends make comments saying they wish their husband would DO a fraction of what I do for my wife around the house. As our kids were growing up, I was the one who would get them bathed and ready for school and put them down for bed every night. On Sunday’s, so my wife would have time to get ready for church, I would also get all three of them ready and fed. I do the dishes, I do the laundry, I do the ironing, I pick up the clutter, I maintain the cars, I make the bed, I clean the bathrooms, I take care of the lawn, among other things. This I do all out of love for my wife and my family.

        The only thing that I have failed to do is have a job that pays shit so my wife — who is a nurse and makes good money — has had the burden of being at work more than she would like (or I would like) and be away from our kids as they grew up. This has frustrated both of us to the very core. And I became so angry with God during a 4-year span where I was laid off from one job and unemployed for nearly a year between two job stints. Because what is more pure of a prayer than for the husband to be the provider and the wife to be at home where she desires to be with her children? It wasn’t like we were praying for a bigger/better house or car or glamorous vacation. All I truly desired with all my heart was to allow my wife the opportunity to be with our children at home as their mom and for me to be able to provide an income that would support our family. But our gracious Heavenly Father turned a deaf ear to me (and still has to this day) for the past 11-plus years in this area and it has really strained my relationship with God and, in turn, with my wife and everyone around me.

        In the past 2-plus years, since my last bout of unemployment, I have gone to the foot of the cross more than ever and start my day for an hour plus in prayer, devotion and reading the Word. We still aren’t any better off in me being the provider or any better off in our marriage relationship, so it is a battle every day for me to really see God’s goodness. I am grateful for my children and also grateful I do have a job and I do still have a marriage where my wife is at least trying to work on it, so for that I am thankful to God. Just taking it one day and one breath at a time. Thank you for your reply.

  • Lars Londot

    What do you do in a marriage when your spouse is not happy with their job? This is something that my wife and I are facing right now. I want to be there for her and support her, but I am dealing with my own personal internal struggles. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.

    • Albert

      Lars – Not sure what part of your wife’s job is making her unhappy? maybe a co-worker, her mgr., or just the job itself… but I don’t need to know the details… I will just share with you what I went through at my job over 20yrs ago… I was working for a mgr. that was by far the worst mgr I had ever worked for. Nothing I did was enough to please this guy and even though I was a lead at my operation, doing above and beyond my responsibilities, he dropped my job level during my appraisal review. I was so angry and upset at the time I went to HR to complain about him. We were working weekends every other week and I would be missing church and at times my wife and kids wouldn’t go when I worked. So I told my mgr I would not work another sunday cause I needed to be in service with my family. well that didn’t sit well with him and he threatened to fire me. that’s when I went to HR. I even went outside the Co. to file a discrimination suit against him and the Co…. well to my dismay and shock nothing was going my way and nothing was done to the mgr or co.. one day as I came home to pick up my son at my mom’s.. she saw the pain and hurt in me, that’s what all mothers fill when their children are suffering.. she told me as Christian woman she has been for over 50yrs… with her soft voice she said, ” give it to God.” I immediately knew God was speaking to me.. I cried out to him that day to first forgive me for trying to fight the battle that was not mine to do and to carry… within a month after we had a dept. meeting in which the co. announced they would be a schedule and team change… I was put on a wed-sat work schedule giving me sundays off… I was given a new mgr… and less than a year later I received my biggest raise to this date.. I am still working for the same Co. now going on 32yrs… so what am saying, to let your wife know to “give it to God” and wait patiently for Him to answer your prayers. He knows what’s best for your wife and will move people out of the way and place others in place to change the situation she is in.. God bless…

  • Albert

    CJ – I have been married for over 25yrs with a beautiful Christian woman who I thank God each day for bringer her into my life… but in those 25yrs it has not been a perfect or always good. We have had our struggles, disagreements, and challenges. But for you and I as men of God we are called to stand firm on the Lord’s promises to be courage’s no matter what the enemy throws at us. The bible says in 1 Peter 5:8 – he’s like a roaring lion devouring who he may… Yes this world is filled with hatred, evil, greed, pride, and all that comes with sin… but this world also has Love, Joy, Peace, Longsuffering, and all the fruits of the spirit that our Lord places in our hearts to encourage and influence one another to be overcomers of this world. John 16:33…. Continue to live for Christ and don’t look back or at others that are perhaps living happier lives… you might think they are by their outward appearance and mask they hide behind. The reward for those who continue to the end in the good fight for God will raine forever! God bless you my Brother….
    Psalm 73:25-26
    25 Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. 26 My flesh and my heart may
    fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

    • CJ

      Thank you, Albert. I so want to keep fighting the good fight. I do not want the enemy to claim another marriage, especially a Christian one. I love my wife and know that we are both sinners and have made choices that have hurt the other. We have gone through about as much storm and trial as you can imagine over our nearly 22 years of marriage, but when I look at everything she truly is the only woman I want to spend the rest of my life with to honor, cherish and love until death do us part. I am praying for patience on my part and God’s wisdom and timing to reconcile and redeem this marriage. I don’t want to waste any of the pain I have experienced so our marriage can be a testimony to others and we can help other married couples in crisis. But for now, I just have to survive this storm and pray that my wife wants to eventually give her heart to me in love and respect again. That is my prayer, along with my own personal healing in dealing with the emotional affair.

  • Albert

    CJ – Praise God for your commitment to see your marriage through and not quit like so many men do! Just reading your post has been a blessing for me as a husband and father to continue to love my family with that unconditional love just like Christ loves us. He doesn’t love us on conditions that we serve Him, even though this is His will for us to serve Him with faithfulness and gratitude in our hearts… It’s a choice we all make in serving God… this is the same way we need to love our wives, children, family and neighbors… Unconditionally! See you and I can’t change no one, I am sure you know that… but with unconditional love, selfless love, and Godly love you will be an influence and testament to others of what it is to love as a true man of God… Your wife and children are blessed to have you as their husband and father! CJ I will lift you up in prayer in our church men’s fellowship tonight… Be blessed today my Brother….

  • Paul_Sp

    Sure wish I had a good wife to enjoy these things with. Sounds nice.

    • Prophet Donald J Trump PBUH

      No, you don’t. You don’t know how good you have it!

      • Paul_Sp

        Yes, I do. But note I said a good wife!

        • Prophet Donald J Trump PBUH

          There is a reason why Paul said to stay single! Take his advice!!

          • Paul_Sp

            It’s an option but not for the majority. I have quite a few friends with marriages they are happy in.

          • Prophet Donald J Trump PBUH

            They’re just telling you they’re happy to lure you into the swamp they’ve found themselves in, believe me. Marriage in America is not what it used to be. Even church going women have their own version of the Bible now….its called The Feminist Bible….its missing Proverbs 31 and Ephesians 5:22. In Genesis 3, Adam makes his own sandwhich.

          • Paul_Sp

            No, no “one size fits all” with this.
            May not be what it used to be, but I know some great ones. In fact, in some cases, the wife is the better person, to my observations.

          • Elizabeth

            I’m a woman and never heard of such a thing. 🤔🤔

          • Prophet Donald J Trump PBUH

            It was a joke….

          • Elizabeth

            Yes I understood that 👍

    • Elizabeth

      I wish there was a man I knew that wanted what you want. A good wife. I keep finding men that sit on their ass and expect me to do 100% of everything and then when I walk away they say What isn’t that women want …. to wear the pants. to be independent and pay the bills and run things. Well those are not the men for me. I expect a marriage to be like God intended. I am a woman of God and I live the way he intended for me to live. Unfortunately until I find a man in this crazy messed up world, I am the man and woman for the time being. 🙁

      • Paul_Sp

        Agree 100%
        The term “a good wife” is a very simplified one just meaning someone I’m compatible with, that we get along and serve each other well, don’t take advantage of each other, that it isn’t hard to stay friends with, and…well, I could go on, but it wasn’t meant to mean serve ME, do what pleases ME, without giving ME a hard time, etc.

        I don’t really even try to find someone, though I would rather be happily married (and not for sexual reasons) than happily single (which doesn’t seem that achievable for me).

        • Elizabeth

          Well where are the men like you hiding at? Lol. I haven’t really ‘looked’ in a long time. I focus on my priorities, and then go home every night. Everyone keeps telling me the right man isn’t hiding in my house. I figured if it was meant to be then our paths would cross. Until then God is my man ❤

          • Paul_Sp

            Ohh, idk, here and there I guess. Some of us don’t really try, seems like a potentially overwhelming chore.
            Same here. That’s kind of what I do too. And I hear the same, but dating/match sites aren’t my thing.
            I used to think that too, our paths will cross without special effort on my part, and know it can, but not sure just waiting and occasionally praying for it is enough. I don’t really want to grow old as a single, but maybe I won’t even be that old when it’s time to go, who knows?

  • Vera Maria

    Bullsh** marriage is an invention for keeping morality

    • Paul_Sp

      What an idiotic thing to say. But no one’s forcing you to marry.

  • George Derouen

    Try saying “to serve your husband and children” to women nowadays and see if your article is still well received. I wouldn’t advise any man to go after marriage with the average woman today, because buddy, their attitude ain’t give and take by no means.

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  • Prophet Donald J Trump PBUH

    Marriage isn’t what it used to be. While I agree, it’s good for both men AND women to be in traditional marriages today’s version of marriage is a scam….it’s nothing more than a government wealth redistribution program. It takes wealth from men and hands it to women.

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