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10 Ways to Find Purpose

    George Bernard Shaw wrote, “This is the true joy in life: Being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one, being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and, as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it what I can. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.” 

    Well said. Here are 10 ways to find purpose for your life:

  1. Think about your legacy:

    Imagine representatives from your family, your work, your friends and your community offering a eulogy for your life. What do you think they would say? Now imagine what you would like them to say? What you’d like them to say can help you understand your purpose.

    More Info: 10 Things From Your Life That Will Survive Your Death 

  2. Understand your place in the universe:

    The following quote comes from Father Cavanaugh in “Rudy” (1983): “Son, in 35 years of religious study, I have only come up with two hard incontrovertible facts: there is a God, and I'm not Him.” We discover purpose by aligning ourselves with God rather than aligning God with ourselves.

  3. Learn to listen:

    Simply paying attention is a huge step in moving from aimlessness toward purpose. That includes listening to our spouse, our children, ourselves and all the wisdom that surrounds us.

  4. Study the lives of great people:

    Who do you admire? Read about the lives of men you respect. If you know them, ask questions about how they found their purpose.

    More Info: 10 Inspirational Athletes 

  5. Mentor a kid:

    Helping young people outside our families can help us understand our purpose at home. Find out more through city and county recreation programs, Big Brothers-Big Sisters mentoring, your local school, church, or the YMCA.


  6. Shut off the trash valve:

    Even as you tune in to the witness of those you admire, at the same time shut off the valve to the trash. It’s hard to discover purpose when we are surrounded by the noise of the vapid, the narcissist, the aimless and the lost.

  7. Take an inventory and learn your unique skill-set:

    Sometimes we’re not aware of our own gifts. Many schools, colleges and places of worship have developed tools to connect people with their talents and proclivities. Take inventory, and then take the courageous step of living into your abilities.

  8. Adopt the discipline of thinking of others ahead of yourself:

    Introspection is useful only so much as it leads to looking out with clearer eyes. When we take our gifts and use them to benefit those around us (family, friends, community…) it’s easier to find a sense of purpose through service.

    More Info: 10 Ways to Put Yourself Second

  9. “Find the place where your great passion meets the world’s great need” (Frederick Buechner):

    If we pay attention to what brings us joy, and then find where the practice of our joy specifically meets the needs of other people, then we will find purpose in the same place.

  10. Experiment:

    Sometimes we simply don’t know until we try. Those who wait around to “find myself” too often waste precious time that could be used to make the world a better place. To that extent, we already know our purpose.


    Related Resource: Are You Listening?


    Huddle up with your kids tonight and ask: 

    What do you think your purpose in life is? Why?

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  • Gurgleplex 4 weeks ago
    Good Advice as always.  Easier said than done.
  • Alfonso Romo 10 months ago
    This is TERRIFIC, is a good program, my question is: this program is teaching in spanish? You have material in my language? my english is not very good.
    If possible send me information, thank you and GOD BLESS YOU coach Tony and team
  • Grnbaykwaps 3 weeks ago
    I have followed these top 10 as a father with my 4 children (2boys & 2girls). Things worked out just fine, they now have blessed me with 5 grandchildren. Today I'm repeating the 10 with a grandson who lives with me. His single parent mother and I try to follow all the rules without father he so needs to learn from! We take him to yearly All Pro Dad events and just love the whole day together!!!
  • James_lake 3 weeks ago
    I love this All Pro Dad!
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