10 Ways to Let Your Wife Know Shes Captivating

Have you ever showed up somewhere and had people say, ”Wow, you look sick…” or tired, or generally unwell? Pretty soon you feel bad enough to go home, right?

Or how about the opposite, when people say, “Looking good today!” Not happening so much? Fact is, building people up actually translates into belief, feelings of self worth, and eventually positive action.

It’s the same at home. Words of affirmation and encouraging actions tend to make a tangible, positive difference.

Bottom line, the key variable in your wife’s self-concept turns out to be you, her husband. She’s going to be as captivating as your words and actions tell her she is.

Maybe she’s captivating already, and you just have to point it out – or maybe you’ve lost the ability to see her charms and she’s figured that out. The good news is there’s a lot we can do to help ourselves believe. We simply have to make up our minds and act now to get the ball rolling.

1. Begin with an “I love you” campaign: Women who are taken for granted pretty much lose their capacity to captivate. If you have to, keep a running count – find at least ten ways to say, “I love you” each and every day.

2. Say it with flowers: Don’t break the bank, but a rose a day for a week, without comment, will get the message across.

3. Believe it: If you don’t believe your wife is captivating then she certainly won’t buy it either. That’s why we’re recommending these practical steps. Act like she’s captivating and – believe it – she will be.

4. Listen: Nothing says, “I’m captivated by you” more than undivided attention. If you say “I love you,” hand over a red rose… but then turn on the game you’re not fooling anyone – least of all your lovely wife.

5. Stalk her a little: Show up at her job and say, “I can’t stay away from you a whole day.” Arrive home early – use the same line. Let her find you leaning on the hood of her car when she comes out of the grocery store, or the hairdressers – use the same line again.

6. Say it with cards: Head over to Hallmark, buy a pack of note cards or “I love you” cards. Write, “I can’t get enough of you” in each one, along with a unique observation (“I think it’s your bright eyes”… “Just to watch you walk”… “Have I ever told you how much I love to hold your hand”…) on each card. Then leave her one, easy to find, each day for a week.

7. Rearrange your schedule around her for a few days: Ask her what she’d enjoy doing this weekend, or tomorrow evening, or next week. Then move heaven and earth to make it happen.

8. Confess: Tell her “nothing entrances me like spending time with you.” If you’ve been doing #s 1-7 then she’ll believe you. If you haven’t demonstrated the truth of it first, then all you’ll accomplish is meaningless flattery.

9. Enjoy her: You can give all the flowers you want, write epic love poems and stare at her till the cows come home… but if you look bored or disinterested or unconvincing then she’ll know you’re making it up and it’s going to hurt. So actually be captivated and she’ll be captivating.

10. Tell her you can’t stop thinking about her: Yeah, she’ll want details. So come in from work and tell her she was in your mind all day and all the way home. Then make sure you have something to share about that.

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