A couple of months ago, I took my kids to a fair. Inside one of the buildings they had an area with building blocks and my kids loved it. At one point I started to build a tower with my daughter. For twenty minutes we worked hard and built it tall. It even reached higher than her head. After admiring it for a bit we decided to move on. Before we even left the area another child came over and knocked our tower to the ground. It took one second for all of that work to disappear. My daughter was fine, but honestly, I was quietly a little affected by it. It’s tough to put effort into something that disappeared in the end.
Author Francis Chan writes, “Our greatest fear should not be of failure, but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.” Is there anything worse than giving something all you have when, in the end, it amounts to nothing? It makes you want to focus on what is important in life. Whatever you do, don’t make that mistake! Here are 10 things in life that don’t really matter:
1. Sports Results
Sports are a wonderful means of entertainment. However, taking someone else’s success story and somehow making it our own leaves us with little to show for it. Michael Jordan won a lot of championships and it sure was fun watching him do it. But the rings are on his fingers, not ours, so strive to be a champion in your own world.
2. Living Up to Unrealistic Expectations
Avoid unrealistic expectations. Sometimes they are external, such as from a parent or a spouse, and sometimes they come from within. In either case, do not waste energy trying to live up to something you are not.
3. TelevisionAre you going to look back on your life and wish you had watched more TV?
Are you going to look back on your life and wish you had watched more TV? Meanwhile, walks aren’t taken, conversations aren’t had, life is neglected. All for the sake of what is mostly mind-numbing and brain crushing worthless programming. Turn it off and do something.
Want to improve your life? Drop all those things you are holding on to that are eating you from the inside out. Instead, spend your time practicing forgiveness.
As the saying goes, if you are going to seek out revenge then dig two graves, one for the person and one for yourself. Spend your life working on building something rather than destroying.
From personal observation, the more a person needs his/her ego stroked, the less happy they are. There comes a point where you must accept and love who and what you are.
7. Technology Obsession
We are bombarded with new and faster ways to share and absorb information. In moderation, they are extremely helpful in many ways. When abused, they push our lives almost into an artificial existence. Does it really matter if you have the latest and greatest product to replace yesterday’s latest and greatest? No, it does not.
8. Fear of Failure
The following is a quote from John Keats: “Don’t be discouraged by a failure. It can be a positive experience. Failure is, in a sense, the highway to success, in as much as every discovery of what is false leads us to seek earnestly after what is true, and every fresh experience points out some form of error which we shall afterward carefully avoid.” Don’t waste your time on fretting about failing.
There is nothing wrong with having money, but when it becomes the focus of our hearts and minds it can damaging. Don’t spend your life worrying about having more money or making the pursuit of it your number one goal. It isn’t worth it.
10. False Idols
When it comes to what is important in life, I believe our number one priority should be our personal relationship with God. Yet, we surround ourselves with multitudes of false idols. All the things we discussed in this list and plenty more. What are you worshipping? Where is your heart? When you are moments from death, will you be able to look up to God and say “I’m ready?” Don’t waste any more time on gods that don’t last.
Huddle Up Question
Huddle up with your kids and ask, “What is the most important thing in your life?”