After 16 years of marriage, we’ve experienced a lot. The hope each year is that our marriage will continue to improve. That is easier said than done. The best way to ensure your marriage improves is to be intentional.
If you don’t say and do things intentionally, then you’re putting your marriage at risk. I don’t want to take a chance with my most important relationship. When your words and actions are intentional, the hope of a better marriage becomes reality. Here are 10 things to do for your wife every year.
1. Take a trip alone with her.
If you have kids, this will take some planning. But, it’s totally worth it. Uninterrupted time together allows you to reconnect, focus on why you fell in love in the first place, and recharge for the years ahead.If you don’t say and do things intentionally, then you’re putting your marriage at risk.
2. Make a big deal about her birthday.
This is your chance to show off as a husband. Plan ahead, put a reminder in your phone, make the dinner reservation, and buy her the flowers. Do whatever it takes to ensure your wife knows you care about her on her special day. Make her the center of attention for the day.
3. Give her a weekend away.
Just like it’s important for the two of you to go away alone, your wife deserves some time by herself, too. Give her the gift of a weekend without work, kids, or chores to worry about. Book the Airbnb, buy her that book she’s left sitting in her Amazon cart, and gas up her car. She will come back refreshed and thankful.
4. Get dressed up (suit and tie) and take her on a date.
No offense to cargo shorts, but there is just something about dressing up that makes a night out feel more romantic and memorable. Iron that dress shirt and shine your shoes. Bonus points if you pick out the dress you’d like your wife to wear. She’ll love that you showed an interest in her appearance.
5. Pray continually for her and with her.
This is something to do for your wife daily, not just yearly. It’s your most important relationship. Praying for your wife communicates that care for her. Praying with your wife communicates that you honor her before God.
6. Take her to the place of your first date.
Remember those butterflies you felt on the first night out? Recreate it. Going back will give you a chance to reminisce about the early days of your relationship (unless your first date was a at Blockbuster or Radio Shack).
7. Give her a week off from “mom duties.”
Pick up the kids, cook the dinner, and fold the laundry. Don’t leave those traditional “mom duties” to your wife. Taking those to-dos off her hands will remind her you don’t see her as a chores-machine.
8. Take her to a show.
Don’t just pick any old show. Find out what her favorite show is and hunt down tickets the next time it’s in town. Or, plan a trip to see it somewhere nearby. Does your wife prefer sports instead of theater? Score tickets to a ballgame, instead.
9. Write a love letter to her.
What’s great about love letters is they can be saved forever. Make this a habit. Write down what you love about your wife so she can read it over and over again. For added fun, hide little notes around the house. She’ll be stunned, and excited, when she finds them.
10. Give her a head to toe massage without expecting anything.
This will relax her and make her feel special. Don’t announce it ahead of time. Make it a surprise.
Sound off: What is one thing you do for your wife every year?
Huddle up with your wife tonight and ask, “What are the things I do that make you feel most loved?”