When you are a father, you are hit daily by a world of challenges and stressful situations. Even when you have a wife to help you, fatherhood is challenging. However, being a single dad is even more difficult.
Being a single dad is a serious balancing act. The responsibility of parenthood is enormous, and men who are giving their all for their kids should be praised. But sometimes, it gets tough and lonely. We want all single fathers to feel appreciated. That’s why we’re here to give you this encouragement.
1. You don’t have to worry about the dishes.
For a single dad, time is at a very high premium. Work eats up most of it, so task overload easily can swallow what remains. Mouths to feed, dishes to clean, clothes to wash, and all the chores and charms of a home that needs your attention. As a generalization, try not to feel guilty if you leave the dishes in the sink overnight. Place the emphasis and importance on being with your children to play, read, or simply talk.
2. Your kids have what they need—you.
A great many single parents find themselves in financial distress. Keep in mind that the thing your kids need most from you is your love and attention. After that, separate the true needs from the pile and place top priority on those—things such as food, shelter, and clothing. Children don’t always understand why they can’t have everything they desire, but one day, they’ll get it.
3. You are not alone.
It is difficult and challenging being the only adult in the room long term. Loneliness, stress, and depression are common for single parents. Know that you are not truly alone. There are 1.7 million others in the same boat who are experiencing the same things. Be sure to take time for yourself to recharge and strengthen your mind.
4. It’s OK to have hope.
After a divorce, your ex may still be a very big part of family life. How that relationship functions is extremely important, not only to the children but also to your overall emotional health. In dating and new relationships, take extreme care when introducing new people into your family’s life. Resentment or premature attachments are just two of the standard pitfalls. Always keep the hope for love in your heart while being mindful of far-reaching, unintended consequences.
5. It’s OK to need your support system.Display humility and understanding toward the people in your life after divorce.
Family, friends, babysitters, teachers, mentors, and all sorts of other people have a role in your family life. However, divorce can take a big toll on family support; judgment and bitter feelings can split friends. Display humility and understanding toward the people in your life after divorce. In most cases, they won’t understand the entire picture and will see only what they want to see. Only time and a new, stable reality will change those perceptions. Be patient.
Sound off: What are some other encouraging words we can give to single dads?
Huddle up with your kids and ask, “Who can we encourage that needs it the most?”