This is the All Pro Dad Podcast, where in each episode, dads of all ages dive into just one question. Today, we ask, “Are my kids learning to forgive?”

We all know the frustration of holding onto a grudge. Getting out from underneath it requires choosing forgiveness. It’s a powerful tool that allows us to work through conflict, free from the burden of anger and resentment. It’s a skill we must master and teach to our kids.

Why do we want kids to be good at this? It’s a vital skill that leads to healthy conflict management and better friendships. How do we start teaching forgiveness to our kids? If this doesn’t come naturally to you, don’t sweat it. Try these three, easy steps:

1. 1. Define it.

We like to say that forgiveness is deciding that someone who has wronged you doesn’t have to pay.  Make sure your kids know what forgiveness is.

2. Acknowledge feelings.
It’s totally normal to be hurt and angry when someone has wronged you, but holding onto that pain can impact you and your relationship.

3. Lead by example.
Dad, you have to show your kids the way on this one. Don’t assume they’ll just figure it out. Model it!

Helping your kid define forgiveness helps them to give forgiveness. Talk to your child about the definition of forgiveness. Remind your kids that God forgave us.

Today’s Pro Move: Model forgiveness. This is a great way to start teaching forgiveness.