According to the workbook Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, researcher Beverly Fehr asked more than 170 people to rate the central features of love.? The twelve most important attributes they identified are listed below. Take a moment to prioritize this list for yourself.
___ Acceptance
___ Caring
___ Commitment
___ Concern for the other’s well-being
___ Friendship
___ Honesty
___ Interest in the other
___ Loyalty
___ Respect
___ Supportiveness
___ Trust
___ Wanting to be with the other
Next, circle your top three attributes of love and write a definition of love that incorporates them.
Finally, compare your priorities and your definition with your wife’s to see what differences you might have with her when it comes to defining love.
