We were on the floor laughing so hard. I had attempted to draw our whole family on roll-out papyrus. I’ve never been any good at drawing, but that didn’t stop me from trying to make a masterpiece. In the end, we all looked like zombies with bloodshot eyes and frazzled hair. The one that sent my wife over the edge, though, was our cat. Somehow, I drew him without arms and with a peanut-shaped head. She laughed so hard she couldn’t breathe, and that got me laughing until we fell to the floor.
Our concerned 5-year old, who was trying to get our attention, finally called out: “Are you guys dead?” Laughing has connected us from the beginning of our relationship. When we laugh now, it reminds us of why chose each other. It’s easy to forget the sparks that ignited your relationship when your responsibilities grow each year of your marriage. It’s important to know how to get your wife’s attention and remind her of what drew you to one another. Fan those sparks into flame by following these 5 ways to remind your wife why she married you.
1. Charm her.
Remember the days you’d go out of your way to make her laugh or smile? Bring that charming guy back. Surprise her with witty texts throughout the day, stick a funny note to the bathroom mirror before you leave for work, or plan an unexpected outing to her favorite spot. Show her that despite the responsibilities of work and family that keep you busy, you’re still that fun-loving, charismatic man she couldn’t resist.
2. Support her.
Do you know how to get your wife’s attention? Support her. Take a genuine interest in something she’s passionate about. If she’s working on a project, offer to help or simply be her listening ear. Attend events that matter to her, even if they’re not up your alley. Your presence and encouragement will remind her why you’re her rock.
3. Reignite romance.
As Michael Gormley, host of the Catching Foxes podcast, wisely has said, “You are the only legitimate source of romance in your wife’s life. The follow up question is: Does your wife’s life have romance?” Go beyond the standard date night. Plan a surprise weekend getaway, recreate your first date, or simply transform your living room into a romantic restaurant for two. Show her that your desire to sweep her off her feet hasn’t diminished.
4. Demonstrate your commitment.
Actions speak louder than words, but sometimes, words are exactly what your wife needs. Renew your vows in an intimate ceremony, just the two of you. Write her a heartfelt letter expressing your love and gratitude. Or, simply have an open, vulnerable conversation about your hopes and dreams for your future together. Let her see that your commitment to her and your marriage is stronger than ever.
5. Bring back something that won her heart.
Think back to the early days of your relationship. Was there a particular gesture, gift, or shared experience that sealed the deal for her? Perhaps it was the mix tape (or playlist) you made, the handmade gift that took weeks to create, or the way you remembered every little detail she shared. Whatever it was, find a way to recreate or reimagine it. My wife and I always listened to one particular artist in my car when we were dating. When we are alone in the car now, I will play a song from that era, and it immediately brings us back. This blast from the past not only will bring back cherished memories but also will show her that you remember and cherish those moments, too.
Sound off: Do you know how to get your wife’s attention, how to remind her why she married you? Share your ideas.
Huddle up with your kids and ask, “What do you think it means to be a faithful friend?”